When you look at their face and just know they're in a bad mood

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DP has been working away in London this week. Second week of working away.

Last weekend was lovely. Went shopping for a new kitchen table, both cooked nice food.Visit from my parents and extended family - all good. So sad to see him go Monday morning.

He's come home today. I was at the hairdressers so not here when he got home.

He didn't have to really say anything and I knew this weekend would be different than last weekend. His face said it all! 🙄🤷‍♀️

Just why?? I love him to bits but can't be doing with this shit. He's now asleep.
Hoping he's happier when he wakes up! 🤞

Do you mean he expected you to be sitting waiting for you and is pissed you had your hair done?

No I think he was just tired and miserable.

He was probably tired and on a wind down. Unless he has form for being moody and stroppy?

Don't let it affect you and have a good weekend!

Sounds hard work!

One occasion of your DH looking like he's in a bad mood and "I cant be dealing with this shit" seems a bit dramatic. Everyone is grumpy sometimes. Are you sunshine and roses every day or your life? Unless of course there is a big back story.

I may be completely off the mark here but did you grow up with a moody parent ?
I ask because my DH's father was like this and as a result my DH frequently checks my face to see if I'm in a mood.
It took me ages to realise this, as sometimes I was just tired, but he would say oh you're not happy and he would go into defensive mode.
Now I smile at him when he does this (I don't think he realises what he's doing) and things are much better as he's reassured.

My post was quite light hearted to be honest.

He's fine this morning. 🤩

Glad he's in a better mood but there was nothing in your OP about it being light hearted. In fact it leant more towards an abusive relationship where you were worried. Or maybe I've spent too much time on the Relationship board...

There are a lot of women who " walk on egg shells" in their relationship and live in dread of their partners moods, which change for no apparent reason. And these women spend their time wondering whether they're being blamed for something.

So if your post was " lighthearted" I'm glad you aren't one of these women.

It's fine to be grumpy.

It's not fine to try and make your partner's life miserable because you are grumpy.

There is a big difference and I wouldn't put up the trying to make my life miserable shit either.

But my H knows this. He knows he can't drag me down because I, if need be it hasn't happened for years, just ignore the mood.

Pandering to grown men/adults sulking especially if they don't tell you what about is pointless. Fine if there is a reason that you are told about, talk it through, make them a coffee in bed, suggest a day chilling at home reading the news or playing video games, a walk, whatever usually cheers them up.

But tip-toeing around, not knowing if your presense is "making things worse" second guessing your every move. Yeah fuck that shit. No one is a mind reader.

Think you missed the mark a bit tbh.

I wouldn't want to be in a situation where someone was assessing my face and deciding that I was going to be in a bad mood for an entire weekend without me saying a word.

I thought this was going to be about your toddler 🤣

Is this a common occurrence? Is he awful to be around when moody for extended periods of time? Does he take it out on you?

If no to all of these , YABU. He's allowed to have a bad day/week. He's allowed to be stressed. He's allowed to have time to decompress. He's not your all singing all dancing monkey .