Parents of children aged between 6-10 what are your consequences for poor behaviour?

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Just that-
what are your consequences, punishment for poor behaviour… is it time out, no iPad, no dessert, grounded etc? And how often do you have to use them?

Child is 8. Don't do punishment we talk it through and move on. He's child number 5, has additional needs and is very rarely naughty. Would never use food as a punishment

I generally don’t personally. I tell them how disappointed I am in them and why. I highlight any natural consequences, but I don’t use punishment unless it’s things like they need to take medicine and won’t so I remove devices until they cooperate. That very rare though.

I don't use punishment, I calmly talk to them about how their behaviour/choices have affected others badly and I enforce reasonable and logical consequences that relate to the behaviour.

For example speaking aggressively to a sibling means time out to calm down and/or an apology, breaking something through doing something they're not allowed to do (like throwing balls inside) means a contribution from their own savings, not getting off iPads when called for dinner means no iPad time the next day, etc.

ETA I very rarely have to use consequences as my kids are very clear on what I consider acceptable and not acceptable and what the consequences of unacceptable behaviour are. Maybe once every few months.

Reduced / no screens, usually as a knee jerk response
nothing consistently works to prevent poor behaviour and it’s hard to know if it’s within realms of normal / still developing the ability to regulate

agree would never use food as punishment (or reward)

DS is almost 6. I've never punished - saying his name firmly with 'the look' has always been enough!

** it's probably relevant here to say by some fluke I have a very, very well behaved and adjusted child. I'm sure if this wasn't the case I'd have brought into firm discipline long ago 😂 ~ I'd be careful about the lack of dessert thing, you don't want DC equating sugary food to good behaviour!

we are screen free but it would be loss of privileges in some way. Try to focus on doing something extra to make amends rather than just taking something away.
For example kid was badly behaved at football practice. I talked with the coach and we agreed he would have to stay behind next practice and tidy away the kit (as well as apologize).
Of course depends on what he has done too and how bad it was/remorse etc.

We also talk about it with DD age 7, never use punishments.

Talking it through with my DD just doesn’t work. I give out punishments but not often. So if she’s really disrespectful or not doing something after I’ve asked multiple times (especially is she’s smirking!) I tell her what the consequence will be (usually no screens for the rest of the day) & then give her her last 3 warnings & between each warning, I remind her again what she’ll be losing. She usually waits until I’m at the last warning then behaves.

I go with a chat and natural consequences delivered in a matter of fact way (not an angry, 'this is your punishment' way).

I don't ever really need to use punishments, but on the rare occasion I do it's a time out/sent to room.

Natural consequences first and foremost.

Talk it through, explain why behaviour was incorrect and what my expectations are, understand why behaviour occurred and what may need to change next time.

Loss of screen time if needed, though it's rare, and the worse the behaviour the longer the loss.

Super bad behaviour - doesn't happen but if it did:

-cancellation of plans (if any, eg play date)
-extra homework
-chores and helping around the house
-bed without story
-'banished' to bedroom to reflect / get some downtime (this would be for something really bad)

Removing screen time. On the odd occasion of terrible behaviour, sent to room for time out and screen time removed for the next day. That’s been enough.

cancellation of plans (if any, eg play date)
-extra homework
-chores and helping around the house
-bed without story
-'banished' to bedroom to reflect / get some downtime (this would be for something really bad)

Some of these are making things you want them to do with a positive attitude (homework and help around the house) into negative experiences. You should avoid that where possible, in the same way punishing/rewarding with food is best avoided.

At the moment we have a chat, install a sticker chart with a small reward at the end of the week. It’s worked so far but I’m definitely interested in answers because feel like I need to be ready with consequences when the time comes.

Anything DC will care about. Usually, screen time. Toy removal.

I don't do chores as a punishment. DC does chores as member of the family. We do them together sometimes.