How would you parent in this scenario?

[Carexo]

Son is 7 and school called today to say he was not listening today and kept trying to go into a play area that was out of bounds as workmen were there sorting out the tarmac.

genuinely how would you respond to this as a parent…just speak to him or would there be consequences? And if so, what?

not the first phone call over the years about his listening but the first this year so far. I am a single mum with a less than great ex husband who had no real views on anything parenting related so could do with some perspective

I would have ask the school if they'd already given him consequences such as missing play time or sitting out etc because if they have there is no point in punishing him twice. Definitely a conversation with probably a warning to say if this happens again xyz consequences will take place at home.

I agree with asking if there had already been a consequence.

If I was chatting to my child, I would probably say school had called and ask some questions like why did he want to go there, did he know it was out of bounds, did he understand why, then say something generic about teachers wanting to keep everyone safe and make sure you follow thier instructions next time.

I also wonder if it's worth exploring with the school what they mean by not listening. Is he literally not hearing stiff, is he hearing the sound but it's not going in as his brain is thinking about lunch, is he hearing but not understanding or has he listened, understood and ignored it. As I would tackle them all differently.

I think he does understand and does hear the things the teachers say but he is quite impulsive and likes to push the boundaries a bit of what he knows he is or isn’t allowed to do

I’d say no tv (or switch or whatever) today, make him apologise to the teacher and then continue your day as usual.

I think for me it would depend on how the convo went with the school...are they telling you because they are concerned that your ds was not interested in his lesson, or that he repeatedly disobeyed instructions or that they suspect that he has some kind of sen issue? I dislike that in some ways schools don't say what they really mean anymore and just infer and leave you to piece the bits together when you may have no clue what they are trying to get at. Depending on what you think they are trying to convey would determine how I handled it...sorry I know that's no help