He has just turned 3, 2 weeks ago. He has always been an easy going child, never tantrummed much, always slept really well, toilet trained himself and always had glowing feedback from his nursery and grandparents. For a few weeks now (and I think I'm struggling more because of pregnancy and my patience tolerance is less than it usually would be) he can be hard work, he will never play or do any activity without wanting us to do it for example I bought him a new halloween colour book yesterday and I set it up for him while I made lunch but he might do a tiny bit then insist I do it, but even when I do apparently I'm doing it wrong? Same with groups etc he always wants you involved but often he tells me I'm doing it wrong anyway. He is more than capable of going to the toilet independently and has been trained for over 7 months now but will sometimes prefer to walk around with his pants down his ankles and ask us to pull them up rather than do it himself. His dad is his favourite and he is even worse with him, he is like his shadow and can't even go to the toilet without DS joining him or pop to the garage to get something without DS getting upset. He can be very bossy with me and his dad and aggy when he doesn't get his own way.
I'm really struggling with PGP but I make sure on days off with him I arrange activities to keep him entertained because he is much harder work in the house long periods, so again example from yesterday but happens all the time is we had a fun day but I explained when we got home I needed to rest for 10/15 minutes (my body feels like that of an 80 year old at the moment) and his toys were set up to play with by himself but of course he did not and nagged at me instead. DP does work away Monday - Friday afternoon so when he gets home of course when he gets home DS gets his full attention and he plays with him loads and does lots of crafts and activities with him but I really do need him to have the ability to play and do some things a bit more independently especially since I will have another in a few months time. I'm feeling like a really shitty parent at the moment because I don't know what I can do and like this has to be my fault. Does anyone have any advice or has been through similar? He's never really been clingy before recently and although always liked us to get involved which obviously we expect and enjoy, it's never been to this extent before.