Am I sick and twisted? What's wrong with me?

[FairTurtle]

I can't believe I'm actually writing this. But I seem to have developed a crush on an actual, blood-related family member. It's not someone I grew up with (it's not a sibling or half-sibling or parent or anything!). Think more along the lines of uncle. It's not someone I saw frequently growing up, but still frequently enough (maybe once every 5 years?) that it's bizarre. Do I need help? I still barely see this person and can feel myself getting over it. I'd never act on it, obviously. But just the fact I'm having feelings is making me seriously concerned.

I just don't understand why I'd even feel this way. I had a great upbringing. Loving parents, stable home. Literally nothing disturbing or troubling or inappropriate going on, ever. It really does seem to be a case of - this person is just attractive to me.

Shall I go to therapy or something?

I think you've worked it out. It happens, you're not going to do anything incestuos. It'll pass. If you were fantasising about all your family members then most definitely sign up to therapy.

If this is sudden then you need to work out what it is that person represents that you may be feeling you are lacking in your life.

Sometimes we can mistake a needs based connection to someone for a romantic or sexual connection especially if they are of the sex we are normally attracted to. It often goes unnoticed and can lead to unhealthy relationships. In your case you’ve immediately identified it is not appropriate as it’s a blood relative.

Dont judge yourself over this but try to work out what it may be that these feelings represent