Share your joys of living alone with me!

[ArtfulBear]

I'm at the very early stages of negotiating the end of a thirteen year relationship. I have one four year old, so won't be entirely alone, but for the first time in my life will be the only adult in the household! I'm putting together a list of things to look forward to about this (not continually clearing up after a man child definitely on it) to help me through the wobbles. Pease could you share your joys about living alone with me?

Having the bed to yourself.

Wandering around naked.

Eating whatever you want with no judging.

The loo seat stays how you put it.

General sense of freedom - if I want to do something I do it without having to run the plan by someone else first!

Being ugly in peace
No pressure to keep it clean and tidy
No one disrespecting me
Decorate exactly how I want
Buy exactly what I want
Do exactly what I want
Be whoever I want
Listen to whatever I want
Got a cat because I WANTED TO
On my child free weekends
I can literally lie on my sofa for 48 hours solid with no judgement
Take baths for as long as I want
Can go to bed whenever I want
I only watch what I want to watch
If I spill something in the fridge I can leave it for days with no one calling me lazy
I can invite whoever I want whenever I want into my home
I can change the bed sheets when I choose

Honestly, I could write about 500 things
But the main one
Is physical and emotional freedom
Priceless 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

Snoring loudly without someone complaining

All of the above!
The physical freedom is one of the main for me. The freedom to be in charge of my own libido and not available at whim to someone else's.

Also, having one mood in the house, that matches mine.
And timings. I'm never late or early and the day is not "running out". I'm where I want to be at a time that suits me.

Not being obliged to shave your legs/pubes/pits.
Being able to wander downstairs naked at 3am to eat ice cream.
Starfish in bed.
Order lots of take aways and don't have to share. Even better, leftovers are still there for breakfast!
Have the dog/cat share the bed.
Rehome lots of dogs/cats!
Only your own laundry to look after.
Watch what you want on TV.
Going out when you want, with whom you want to where you want.
Being able to hire a cleaner or gardener to do the jobs that would normally have weeks of sulking, stomping about, tantrumming and then a month of 'but I did all of THAT!'
Choose and buy your own car without passive aggressive dick swinging.
No dried up piss on the floor/toilet rim.
No huffing, farting, burping other than from the furry friends you've homed.

I could continue for a while!

Agree re. mood. Not having to spend your evenings dancing around the mood of someone else. If you are in a happy mood, you can laugh as loud as you want. If you are sad, you can cry.

Whatever you want for dinner, or nothing for dinner and nobody else complaining about it.

Biscuits and sweets not being eaten up by anyone else.

Clean, fresh bedroom and bathrooms. No sweaty man smell.

You might find https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5186785-do-you-live-alone-and-if-so-do-you-like-it helpful too, OP. We’re all telling the OP on that thread what we like about living alone & how to handle it.

@loropianalover
Oh yes! Nothing for Dinner dinner is the best! 😀
My DS and I quickly developed "Breakfast Dinner" when left to our own devices. It's fruit, berries, granola, seeds and loads of yoghurt in a large dinner bowl.
My ExH now has to make it when DS stays and asks for it 😂

@ilovecushionsandflowers 'Physical and emotional freedom' is a fantastic way of putting it, and spot on. My last relationship wasn't abusive in any way, but MY GOD the relief I felt when he moved out and I had my flat to myself again...

Making what you want for dinner and eat it when you want. It might be full roast, might be cheese on toast, might be a muliltipack of crisps. Might be a takeaway, might be 3 bowls of Frosties. Whatever. Whenever. Bliss!

I’ve lived with my boyfriend for two years, but before this I lived alone for four.
I loved it!

• Cook whatever you want
• Watch whatever you want
• Sleep peacefully, no one rolling onto your side or snoring
• Have all decor your way

Also, when I lived alone I’d hear friends complaining about how their partner never puts the bins out, cleans the bathroom or whatever. And I used to think “god you’re speaking to the wrong audience here as I have to do ALL of that stuff myself!” And I just didn’t get where they were coming from with it. But now that I live with someone else I get it. Because these jobs should be shared. So if you feel you’re always doing certain jobs and the other person isn’t doing as much, it’s frustrating. So one benefit to living alone is, yes, you have to do all the jobs but it’s only you who made the mess. There’s no one to argue with about who does what!

Never feeling lonely..
I felt so lonely in my double bed with a man who refused to talk me .
Now I am alone and love it.

This is the best description of how good it feels to no longer have to tiptoe around someone else and their moods. I'm coming to terms with the end of a long relationship and am getting used to being alone. It's not always easy but the peace of mind I feel knowing that I'm not suddenly going to be dragged into someone else's slipstream because they can't manage their own emotions is so important. When I shut the door and turn off my phone for the evening, I can create a safe and happy space for myself.

Also, if I want to spend £12 on fancy bread and butter I will do so. I don't care if I can buy it in Tesco for £4. I can eat what I choose in the house I bought with the money I earned.

I do love the sound of this!