Neighbours unhelpful. feeling grumpy, though it's their right.

[Treaclewell]

I'm having roofers today - long story involving insurers. They came to assess the other week and got access via the end of the terrace, couldn't ask as they were out. I wrote a note to ask if they would allow access for the work as people in their house had allowed it for houses beyond me in the past. Had to do a note, 'cos I'm CB due to broken arm. I added my phone number. Nothing back, so I assumed OK. But they nipped out this morning and denied access. We've found an alternatve, but they could have talked to me. Previous occupants I let their fencers trample down the lovely loam of my veg patch. I feel aggrieved. They're within their rights but could have called.

Friend here delivered notes, but not engaged in roof matters, or personal care. Shopping. Food, Worrying about me falling down the stairs.

Delaying the roof would have got us into winter. As it is I'm concerned about the tail of Milton.

Well done the son with two full casts. I hazard a guess he's quite a bit younger than me.

OP, of course they should have let you know if it was a no-go.

Okay so you live by yourself and had no one who could possibly help you either by speaking to your neighbours on your behalf or helping you get up the stairs?

No, I don't live by myself. B ut he's not always in, and he has his own business to be concerned about. He's just going out prune my patio plum, container grown, which is once again threatening 2nd floor windows. Mine and theirs. it was on my todo list when I fell. Three years I've had to do this, and never a plum. Send me Victorias. They've been very nice about not mrntioning it, knowing about the arm. An offshoot had to rescue my car from the carpark the day I fell. Friend doesn't drive.

I suggest you use your convalescence time more productively. Get off MN and get onto gardening websites for a start.

He's just going out prune my patio plum,

Plums are pruned in early spring or mid-summer to avoid infection by silver leaf disease. - RHS website.

The onus was still on you to get explicit consent and not assume that silence was consent. That line of thinking has never worked, not even when you're a toddler.

Honestly, he would have been better calling to the neighbours rather than the note ordering them to ring you. You are coming across as quite rude if you said what you say you did in note and given that they do not know your circumstances quite cheeky. I would imagine they were worried that you would be a nightmare to deal if issues came up, so decided not to allow it. Also leaving a tree grow out of control that it is impacting them probably does not endear you to them.

i do not leave it to grow out of control, it puts on masses of growth in late summer and i control it then. if done correctly, i'd still have to do it now. it doesn't read books,

@Treaclewell I'm sorry for this stupid comment at the end of my post. I should have thought you might have other disabilities but even so, it was unnecessary.

No worries. I don't list everything as disabilities, I think of them as temporary, and others have real and much worse ones. Thanks for saying sorry.