Kids father tells them it's ds fault.

[Theex666]

Me and ex have been split for a while now. It was never a stable relationship. Well I didn't feel it was. We split and got back together a few times. There was a mix of reasons we split . Including how he was towards my kids and how he's got an issue with my son being gay . But not with my older son being gay. There are mental Health issues and special needs within the family. Which means I often have alot to manage . And he just added to the problems. When the relationship ended I felt a massive weight lift.

Anyway the problem is he keeps saying to the kids I love your mum very much and that it's my 17 year olds fault that me amd him split up. And he wants us to be together but we can't because of ds .

The 17 year old does get on with the younger kids. They often play Xbox or tablets together. Chill in his room with him etc. So I don't think its effects their relationship.

So do I tell ex to stop doing it. Or do I ignore it

He sounds awful. Will he listen if you tell him to stop? This can’t be having a good impact on your son. I’d be tempted to limit contact if he continues.

Have you made sure your kids know that it is utter nonsense?

Including how he was towards my kids and how he's got an issue with my son being gay . But not with my older son being gay.
He is only homophonic to one son?
Is it that or is it other behaviour of your younger son?

Yes I have told them that daddy is wrong it's nothing to do with ds .and that it's fir adult reasons. And its nothing for them to worry about.

My older adult ds is gay but he's sort of discreet about it. Teen ds is gay but more open he will sit with his boyfriend on the same chair hold hands put their leg over each other's leg. That sort of thing.

Also a good few months back ex grandson had said he wanted to jump of a bridge and that he thinks he's gay . Ex had a words with his grandson . Said boys like girls, girls like boys that's just how it is. The grandson is fine now....

I don't know if he would stop or not. I can't limit contact that would not be fair on them.