Hi all
Thanks in advance for reading.
STBXH and I are currently reaching the end of the divorce process after being separated for 2 years. We share a wonderful 16 year old DS.
He lives with me Monday - Friday and stays at his Grandma's with his Dad at the weekend. This is because DS doesn't want to stay at his Dad's new house because he shares it with his new partner and her children.
I have a DP and we are looking at buying a home together early next year. DP is already a home owner but I rent.
DP lives 25 minutes away in another town. We agreed that I would move to his town due to his job being close by. I am not currently happy in my job so had planned to find a job in his town before or during the process of moving there.
For context, DS and I have moved a lot due to STBXH being an ex soldier. We have now been back in our home town for over a year. DS told me tonight that he doesn't want to move again, but particularly to a town he doesn't know and away from his new college friends and girlfriend. I understand this. He suggested going to live with his Grandma and his Dad will still continue to stay there with him at the weekend.
I am not comfortable with this as I want him to continue to live with me. I also don't want him to feel abandoned.
DP and I aren't sure how to move forward. He doesn't like the idea of living in my area and wouldn't sell his house to live in my rented home. He also would be really quite far from his work.
I now can't see how living in his area in our own home is possible.
Does anyone have any support, advice, wisdom? I feel so stuck.
Thank you. 