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Do my kids dislike me?

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Rarraaa · 09/10/2024 17:17

This sounds odd I am a bit sensitive so sorry for sounding crZy

both my kids (2y10m and 8m nearly 9mo) have went to nursery fine. First was fine for settling in and starting at 9 mo and my youngest only had 1 bad session and has been fine since she’s 9mo next week

I feel like do they secretly dislike me that’s why they’re fine and not missing me?

Eldest has had some times he’s hated going in and cried for me then settles

youngest has never been babysat by family she would never go to anyon so we’re all pleasantly suprised

I’m not saying I want my kids upset haha! I just think is it abnormal they have settled so well and not been seeming to miss me

the room leader for the babies room said my youngest has settled the best and it made me feel bad

i had depression after my youngest it was only about 2/3 months ago k came out of it a bit and was a bit more like me and now I’m worried it’s affected things

But she’s only ever went to me barely even goes to her dad she’s always been so for me

She’s so smiley and happy though so maybe she’s just so happy to be there as there’s new things she only has her older brother no cousins so it’s lots of kids not just 1 xx

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Rarraaa · 09/10/2024 17:31

I just feel guilty having to return to work anyway but worried they don’t seem bothered or is it just they’re having fun at the nursery which is an amazing nursery

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AgainandagainandagainSS · 09/10/2024 17:33

You have raised them to be confident and adaptable, and happy to be around other adults and children. You have done them a favour! (And yourself)

Afriendwithbreastsandalltherest · 09/10/2024 17:46

You have 2 children with a strong attachment style. Well done!

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Rarraaa · 09/10/2024 17:47

Afriendwithbreastsandalltherest · 09/10/2024 17:46

You have 2 children with a strong attachment style. Well done!

What does this mean xx

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Bbq1 · 09/10/2024 18:23

Rarraaa · 09/10/2024 17:47

What does this mean xx

It means that your children feel so loved and secure with you that they know you will return for them at the end of the day.

Rarraaa · 09/10/2024 18:30

Oh I never thought of it like that :) it’s quite lovely to think of it that way

ive been beating myself up thinking I’m boring or they don’t like me

or that me being depressed has affected my youngest loving me

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Knackeredmommy · 09/10/2024 20:03

It's actually a sign of secure attachment to you, they trust you'll be back. My DS cried when I picked him up in his 1st day of nursery, I had to drag him off a trike, Ive never let him forget that!

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MumChp · 11/10/2024 19:55

No!

  • or our 3 disliked me too. They settled easy and well in nursery.
2 are grown ups today and they seem fine.
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