Playground drama. What to advise DD?

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DD is 7. There is a boy in her class who has on and off been referred to as her ‘boyfriend’. Sometimes she’s upset that he has switched to another girl, sometimes she’s pleased that he’s talking to her again. I do say to her that if he was really her friend he wouldn’t behave like that and that focusing on other friendships would make her happier- she agrees but then the next day is delighted when he acknowledges her.

I really didn’t think I would be dealing with this so young! What is the best thing to do here?

Gosh. I think I'd say that at her age, she should just be thinking of "friends", and that she can be friends with boys as well as girls without the boy being a "boyfriend", which means a romantic relationship which is something that will happen when you are older. And that it is very important for her to understand that being in a boyfriend / girlfriend relationship is something that BOTH people need to agree to - she can't just say that a boy who is a friend is her "boyfriend" unless he also want that. Finally is also say that she should only ever be the girlfriend of someone who treats her well and wants to talk to her consistently, it someone who wants to be her boyfriend one day but not the next.

Having said all that, I only have DSs who can go weeks at a time without talking to a girl.

It's really common at this sort of age.

Lots of people remember promising to get married to friends they had in the first few years of school.

They know it's a thing and they're trying it out.

It usually fades by year 3 year 4 at the latest.