Both me & H are rubbish at birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas. We get each other token presents from the kids that we send links to each other for. We think it's all just another unnecessary hassle we are grown ups we put all the birthday fuss into the kids.
Saying this H works like a dog to provide whatever we all need/want, loves us all every day, will do anything, drop anything, take us where we want to go, takes the kids to sport, comes to anything I buy tickets for, arranges days out, never takes out his stress or mood on any of us, he's loyal, devoted, kind, funny, hot, generous, honest, I guess we just don't need special gestures on particular days because they are there all the time. The kids, as they grow are understanding similar.
So yes, regarding birthdays my H is just as rubbish. But that's ok.