Stuck with alcoholic partner

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Need advice for a close relative. They have been together for 20 years and have a house together, and are both in their late 40s. He is an alcoholic. He spends all his salary on booze and frequently defaults on bills. Close relative doesnt earn much and is struggling to cope financially and emotionally.
Without him she cannot manage to pay the bills and would lose the house.
She feels trapped with him because she cannot afford the mortgage on her own so she doesn't ask him to leave.

I constantly get messages and phone calls from her about the situation and its getting me down. She won't take my advice which is to split up with him, sell the house and buy a flat for herself. She doesn't want to lose her house.

What do i do? Ignore her? Sympathize with her?

Bump

Give her the info for the local Al Anon group (support for those with friends/ family who are alcoholics). Help her find the online benefits calculator to work out what she would be entitled to if she left. I think people on low wages can get something to supplement their income.

Tell her you do care about her but you find it frustrating and very sad that there’s nothing you can do to help her (there really isn’t) so can you agree to talk about it less often, maybe only once a week unless there’s a new development.

It might sound weird or difficult to say but I know I can be a bit like your friend at times. I wouldn’t take it badly if one of my friends asked me to do that.

In her case she must realise this is what her life is going to be unless she leaves so it’s a bit much to expect you to listen to the same misery over and over.

Put the house up for sale and once it's sold leave him