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Struggling to forgive

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Createausername1234 · 07/10/2024 10:51

Hello All,
Please may I seek advice on how I can move on? Long post alert, sorry!
We have a DD in primary school, been married for 15 years. My husband is a good man but had bad temper issues and was not responsible for the first 10 years when I was struggling with a stressful FT job. It also did not help that his side of the family is very toxic and he was adamant about his family stay in our house for 3 months which also further strained our relationship.
He now owns up to his mistake and has changed a lot - he helps out a lot, doesn't fume, etc. which is nice.
I want to try for another baby but his latest medical issues mean we cannot have children naturally(although our first child was born naturally) and he is against IVF etc.
I can't help but beat myself up about how things would have been different if he was not a difficult person to start with and how I made a big mistake by choosing to marry him..I have huge regrets, it consumes me all the time!!
How can I move forward from here..

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DustyLee123 · 07/10/2024 10:54

So you’re not going to have another baby while you’re with him. What do you want more, your family as it is with all the stability that brings, or another baby?

Createausername1234 · 07/10/2024 11:21

Thanks for your reply @DustyLee123 I really want another child (even via IVF). we cannot have another child naturally due to current medical issues with my husband. He is against IVF.

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