Service at crematorium

[FrenchPear]

Basically going to a close family member's funeral which is at a crematorium. I've never been to one in the UK. What is the general dress code?

Have funeral's gone away from black now?

I work for a funeral firm and go to dozens of crematorium services every week. Dress code varies at every one. Most people dress smartly but on the whole, the all black thing, isn’t so much a thing anymore. Maybe black trousers or skirt and then a blouse or jumper. Dress respectfully, and comfortably and you can’t go wrong.

Yes, the last ones I’ve been to people were just wearing whatever they wanted.
One was wearing Birkenstocks to a mass, which amused me.

I see people turn up in joggers and converse to some. 🤣

sometimes instructions are issued asking say for a certain colour to be worn such as a favourite colour of the deceased
I am still in favour of black or navy for a funeral such as skirt or trousers with a white top or cream top with a matching blazer

I just think that's a bit disrespectful personally.

I think smart casual perhaps in a not too bright colour.

I was at a funeral before, not in a crematorium and the family had said bright colours only, no black, that it was a celebration. Thought that was quite nice.

Totally agree. It’s not very respectful at all. The air of deference at funeral’s is definitely disappearing. Bright colours or a favourite colour of the deceased person, is very common. Hope it all goes ok.

Usually when someone lets you know about the upcoming funeral you will also receive info if they would like a specific colour to be worn. Otherwise I’d go with dark and respectful.

When my best friend of 60 years died she asked that people wear their brightest colours to her funeral I wore a combination of cerise, yellow and orange, I wanted her to see me from heaven and smile!

I've been to about 4 or 5 funerals over the last few years, mainly at crems and absolutely haven't seen people wearing joggers or the like (I just don't buy that is typical at all). I think generally black/navy unless the family ask for something different - for my aunt the request was clothes with a spring flower theme, lots did and others just went more with the traditional black. So unless you know a different theme has been asked for smart clothes in black/navy would always be my go too.

I always wear black office type wear. I'd wear the same for the crem as for church.

This. Unless someone has told you the dress code is different then wear a dark colour, at least smart casual (no jeans or trainers) and nothing revealing.

It's a bit like weddings - lots of people do different things now but it's the hosts who set the tone, not for the guests to decide.

I would always go for a dark colour. Normally smart trousers with a blouse and blazer or a dress and smart coat. Usually black but I've also worn navy and dark grey. Unless stated otherwise of course. But if any doubt I don't think you can go wrong with looking reasonably smart in a darker colour.

I didn’t say it was typical, but I go to a lot of funerals and I’ve seen it. Different strokes for different folks. Most are respectful.

My cousin came to my mother’s funeral in shorts. His wife was in a shell suit. I was just grateful they were there.

I wear the same clothes at funerals that I wear to the office; black trousers, plain shirt and a dark grey or black cardigan.
I’d have to go out and buy some bright coloured clothes if that was requested - unless I turned up in gym kit. I’ve got some pretty funky leggings!