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Did both of your parents work during your childhood?

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StuntAcorn · 06/10/2024 18:07

Both mine and DH's parents all worked during our childhoods.
We're early 70s babies.

Apparently this is quite uncommon within our circles, as most of them experienced one full time SAHP.

OP posts:
Baital · 06/10/2024 20:58

Even more unusual for the 70s, my father was the main carer for most of my childhood 😂

Mum went back to work when I was 2 (a teacher, so had the school holidays off).

I went to nursery, and Dad worked from home and did the wrap round care. Then worked in the evening after Mum got home. Was the one at home if I was off sick etc

pinkroses79 · 06/10/2024 21:02

My mum didn't work much when I was a child. We were born early - mid 70s. She didn't work at all until I was about 9 or 10, and then had a part time job. I was the eldest, my sister was about 6, but we didn't have childcare. I mostly just remember being at home with no adults for an hour or two. It wasn't really the sort of thing people seemed to worry about then, we were just told not to answer the door.

ItTook9Years · 06/10/2024 21:21

30percent · 06/10/2024 20:39

The people claiming their mothers worked from when they were super young in low paid jobs because they were poor. I havent seen anyone explain where the kids were?? People whos mother's started working when they were old enough to let themselves in yeah and people who's parents had good jobs and could afford a nanny yeah.

Maybe I missed it 🤷🏻‍♀️

My mum went back when I was 2 weeks old. She worked evenings as a music teacher. My dad looked after me.

ItTook9Years · 06/10/2024 21:22

Baital · 06/10/2024 20:58

Even more unusual for the 70s, my father was the main carer for most of my childhood 😂

Mum went back to work when I was 2 (a teacher, so had the school holidays off).

I went to nursery, and Dad worked from home and did the wrap round care. Then worked in the evening after Mum got home. Was the one at home if I was off sick etc

Same. Once my mum went back to work days my dad did all the cooking, washing, childcare as well as his full time lecturing job.

Changeyourfuckingcar · 06/10/2024 21:26

Partially. My dad always worked, he was (is, perhaps) a carpenter/joiner, self employed and very in demand. My mum was a sahm until I was 9 or so, when she started work in our local school, which was only doable as she worked school hours, term time only as my twat of a father considered it to be beneath him to even think of looking after his own children, so she worked full time and did all the cooking, cleaning, everything. She’s worked full time ever since. They split when I was 12.
Born in the mid 90s, with siblings both older and younger.

AelitaQueenofMars · 06/10/2024 21:28

Smartiepants79 · 06/10/2024 18:20

Can I ask who looked after you if both parents were working??
Breakfast club and after school clubs didn’t exist round us. Early 80’s.

Both my parents worked full-time (1970s). When I was at infant/primary school the school caretaker’s wife looked after me. By the time I was 7 I was at a prep school and stayed on a bit later after classes, then walked home, by which time Mum would be home. Then it was boarding school from the age of 8…

itispersonal · 06/10/2024 21:29

My mum did evening jobs - pub work etc on odd days when I was a young kid. Then used to work on a Sunday at Makro when we were early primary with dad looking after us, cooking dinner etc.

It wasn't until I was in year 4 when mum started working daily though still part time 9-2.30

Think dps mum was similar

itispersonal · 06/10/2024 21:30

Ds and I born early 80s

DreadPirateRobots · 06/10/2024 21:34

Bor 1895

... you'll certainly have a unique perspective on this.

Anonym00se · 06/10/2024 21:39

Smartiepants79 · 06/10/2024 18:20

Can I ask who looked after you if both parents were working??
Breakfast club and after school clubs didn’t exist round us. Early 80’s.

My parents were divorced, but my Mum worked. We walked ourselves to school and back from the age of about 6 (everyone did, we weren’t unusual back then). We had a babysitter in our house after school for a couple of hours till DM got home. She was a neighbour’s daughter who had left school and was unemployed. I remember her cutting a fringe like Phil Oakey’s into my lovely waist length hair. She also ran up a phone bill of hundreds of pounds (a fortune in the early eighties) calling her boyfriend who was a soldier stationed in Belize. I think DM binned her off at that point and just let my older brother watch us.

Molly546 · 06/10/2024 21:41

My mum was a SAHM when I was little and just worked part time as we got older. I loved having her around especially when I was little and it was what made me really want to be a SAHM for mine. She spent a lot of time doing all sorts of games and activities with us and our cousins and made really lovely home made dinners and cakes. We didn't have that much money but I definitely would rather have her home than more money. This was in the 70's.

Blarn · 06/10/2024 21:47

DreadPirateRobots · 06/10/2024 21:34

Bor 1895

... you'll certainly have a unique perspective on this.

Ha! Yes! I was typing as my train was coming into the station. Should have been 1985.

Shodan · 06/10/2024 21:51

No.

My father was a fairly high-ranking police officer, and as I'm one of 6 siblings Mum stayed at home- Dad's shift pattern and the number of children made it virtually impossible for her to work, plus financially it wasn't needed.

She went back to work when my younger sister was about 13 or 14, after her second divorce. I was 21 by then.

I was born in the late 1960s.

liquidsquidli · 06/10/2024 21:52

Yes but it was unusually I remember the dinner lady saying you are the child whose both parent work
Confused

Mid 1980s

socks1107 · 06/10/2024 21:53

My dad yes, my mum part time watering plants on an industrial estate then when my sister was 6 ish she went back to her old job part time and eventually full time when we were teenagers

familyissues12345 · 06/10/2024 21:54

Dad worked full time, away a lot.

Mum always worked, I think, but very part time. I always remember her being there

upat4am · 06/10/2024 21:55

Born late 80s with 2 younger siblings. My mum was a SAHM until youngest went to school, then she worked school hours until she retired. My dad WFH from my early teens, so I felt like I saw them both a lot growing up.

I'm very pro working mums, but being able to be dropped off/picked up from school by my mum every day was brilliant.

When DC reach school age I hope to reduce my hours so I can finish at 3 and collect them, at least a few times a week if not everyday.

mum2jakie · 06/10/2024 21:55

30percent · 06/10/2024 20:45

At the expense of sounding like an idiot what do you mean? He did people from other countries? Or like the band foreigner?

Lol 😆 "Doing foreigners" means doing unofficial overtime - little cash in hand jobs for people outside of your official working hours! It's nothing to do with people from abroad!

OnlyFrench · 06/10/2024 21:55

Early sixties.....mum hated being at home and returned to full time work when my brother and I were about two/three. Older siblings did the majority of the childcare and we were definitely latch key kids at an age where it wouldn't be acceptable now, but was less unusual then. I have very few memories of my mum from those days but many more of my dad, who seemed to like us more!

I had no choice financially but to return to work when mine were very young babies, but I got made redundant and ended up doing loads of part time jobs like cleaning just to pay the mortgage but still bring up my kids in a more hands on way. I asked them recently and they don't remember me not being there.

EveryDayisFriday · 06/10/2024 21:59

Yes. Dad was a company director, Mum was a nurse that worked PT, 2 nights a week. She'd take us to school then sleep before pick up time. She did however, do everything at home too and this grew resentment and the marriage failed after he retired and still did FA at home.

I've worked throughout my DCs childhood and I'm pleased to kept my financial independence as an example to my DDs. DH does equal amount of home chores so it has been easier for me than DM.

OnlyFrench · 06/10/2024 22:00

My great grandfather died very young in the early 20th century. I recently found a newspaper report about his wife being prosecuted for not sending their daughter, my gran, to school because she had to work and gran was looking after four younger siblings. She was ten years old 😳

Mamabear999 · 06/10/2024 22:01

First baby in our house was born in 1977 and my Mum was back to work 6 weeks after we were all born. She had a really good job and my Dad ran his own business. We had a lady look after us and honestly she was like my Grandmother. I have a photo of her beside my bed to this day loved her so much. I was the only one in my friend group whose mother worked. We had a cleaner three times a week so weekends were all about doing things and going places so I did not feel hard done by

Onlyadaughter · 06/10/2024 22:03

No, my DM stopped working when she had me in the late 70s and never returned (DGM apparently refused to look after me). So she stayed home and was a housewife.

Drivingoverlemons · 06/10/2024 22:06

My mum stopped teaching when she was pregnant because there was no maternity leave and had three DC fairly close together She went back to work when the youngest was three, part-time (in an office) then back to teaching full-time when I was in year 5. My Dad was made redundant just after the youngest was born so I am not sure how they survived as there was no ‘family money’.

Ponderingwindow · 06/10/2024 22:13

born in the 70s. We were all latchkey kids. Got ourselves to and from school from a pretty young age because both parents were at work and there was no such thing as wraparound childcare.

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