Curios what you would expect to pay

[Octaviusoctober]

Curious really, moved in with partner, always thought would marry, delays, had child together but 10 years down the road, not married and he is upset about rent etc.
He earns 3/4 more and he owns house outright no mortgage and very healthy, extremely robust savings.

I would expect to pay half of the household bills but nothing towards anything that will add value to the house or it’s upkeep

Half of all household bills but nothing towards upkeep in house eg plumber bills or decor

What the other posters said.

If he wants more than that, sorry, you don't have a "partner".

Half bills and no more but what an awful precarious situation for you, how old is your child now?

He pays for all the holidays usually 2 weeks a year maybe a city break.

Most of the the cleaning and cooking done by the woman of course and most of the child care.

What is your thought OP? Do you think half of household expenses but no rent/mortgage contribution is unfair?

He earns 3/4 more and he owns house outright no mortgage and very healthy, extremely robust savings.

There weren’t delays. He knew what he was doing and has purposefully not married you. I suspect you know that now with the comment about childcare and housework. He obviously thinks what you’re paying is unfair and you obviously feel like you’ve been fobbed off so… I don’t know if there is a fair amount when both people feel like you do.

I also think 50% of bills is fair, I’d only contribute to other household upkeep expenses if I was married, you’ve got no stake in the house value so I don’t think you should contribute any more.

I’d also pay a proportion of holidays etc but as he earns much more I’d suggest not 50%. Do you have childcare costs? If so how are they divided?

He's got you right where he wants you, hasn't he? Go 50/50 on the bills including childcare and start splitting the chores and parenting. I'd suggest securing a stronger financial position if you can - if you split it'll be especially tough for you financially. But it'd be 1000x worse to feel trapped to someone because of money so start working on your position now. If you never split then you are just wealthier and more independent than you would have been - neither of which would be a bad thing!