My partner can't feel my baby move😮‍💨

[2106newmum]

I'm 20 weeks (boy mum) and my baby is a little wriggler. I can feel him swishing around inside and the occasional tiny little pops in my belly. My placenta is at the front of my belly and the ultrasound tech said sometimes it might be hard to feel him moving until he gets bigger which I understand. I just wish I could get my partner to feel our little baby wriggle so he doesn't feel left out 😥 I keep trying but he seems to stop moving when he puts his hand there😔

Ah there’s plenty of time for him to feel movements when baby is a bit bigger. Maybe book a a 3D scan so you can both see baby that way.

It will become all involved when your baby cries for ages once they're born there will plenty of time for realising they are there then

What does being a 'boy mum' have to do with it?!

Anyway he'll be able the feel the movements soon. Some women are only just feeling them at 20 weeks, so it's still very early. Your partner IS going to be left out for most of the pregnancy - he can't grow a baby or give birth. Focus on what he can do to make you comfortable, and what his role is after the baby is born.

It'll happen.

Things don't need to be rushed.

Calm yer tits.

Nothing has to do with being a boy mum? I literally just said it because my baby is going to be a boy and I only found out the gender the other day so I'm still excited...

You have 20 more weeks yet! He'll definitely be able to feel them soon don't worry 😀.

Congratulations OP 🎈🎉🎆🎇☄️

It'll happen. By the end he'll be able to see it moving never mind feel it! I don't think DH had felt the movements by the 20 week scan even though I had.

In 10 weeks or so he’ll be able to see baby moving in utero, never mind feel.

My OH felt the baby about 3 times the whole pregnancy - she just stopped everytime he tried! Towards the end he could see her moving though.

But honestly it doesn’t really matter, get him involved in other ways like those apps that tell you what the baby is doing each week. Once the baby is here it’s all a distant memory

Congrats OP. What everyone else has said. Also, it’s sex not gender.

I didn't even think of trying to get DH to feel kicks really. It was happening inside me so I could feel it. Not really a shared activity.

Didn't have any link to bonding after birth.

my baby was the same as Mushroo’s - as soon as my DH put his hand on my bump, she stopped kicking! Once near the end of pregnancy, I asked him to put his hand on me just to stop her kicking for a few minutes 😂

But it doesn’t stop them bonding and being connected. Like PP have said, the dad needs to wait till after the birth.

When you are lying down and relaxing, get him to read a book to your baby. After he's born he'll be familiar with the sound of your partners voice, and will find it relaxing.

DH is in the Army and missed the vast majority of my second pregnancy (including the birth). But when he got home, when she 2 weeks old, and held that little baby I his arms... none of that mattered. Bonds will form because people want them too, not because of particular experiences.

Mine didn't even do that.

Once she was born we both had baby carriers/slings and he just wore her in one.

Don't worry, by the end baby will be kicking like a donkey and you'll all feel it

I had anterior placenta first time round and didn't feel anything until at least 22 weeks. With this baby it's anterior again but I've felt movement much earlier (now 22 weeks again) and partner still can't feel anything but it doesn't matter, it'll come

Since when?! Give me strength

Congratulations! Don't worry, this will come in time and your partner will have many joys to share with you. He will probably be able to see it moving eventually.

They do say a glass of cold water helps with the movements. Don't know if this really works or not.

I had a front placenta and despite my kid being highly active my partner maybe felt a slight movement once - it’s more difficult when it’s at the front. They are super close now though and have bonded plenty since she’s been born! Maybe get him to read or sing to your baby - they do hear some stuff in utero!

Give it a few more weeks and he will get chance to feel the kicks. Its very faint at first but that won't last. My boys dad put his head to my belly to see if he could hear him moving as he didn't get much chance feeling and got kicked in the head 😂

I was just thinking the same thing about seeing it ! Yep plenty of time OP nothing to be getting upset about