What do your year 9 girls do out of school?

[Teenagemumma]

Just having a chit chair with my Dd over breakfast earlier. A lot of her class are going to a 14th birthday party this weekend, maybe with alcohol definitely with boys. My Dd not invited but isn’t friends with them so 1) not bothered and2) wouldn’t expect to be invited.

she is friendly as in says hello but not to hang out with in or out of school.

she has a handful of close friends and they tend to still do things like bowling or ice skating for birthdays.

i would have said she’s a you’re mature but now thinking maybe she seems younger than peers? Am happy she is being herself and happy with who she is but just idly wondering what is the norm for same age girls.

my first party like this was around 16 I think.

At 14 my DDs were hanging out with friends, cinema, shopping, sleepovers etc. it's the age where they start being a little more independent and doing stuff by themselves. Definitely no alcohol parties, that was more 15/16 so year 11.

Thanks that’s very similar to kine

perhaps a group of girls at school are the exception rather than the norm

I have no DD but by 13/14 we were ‘hanging out’ rather than having parties or doing specific activities like bowling. I remember one of my friends dads had a games room/bar out the back of his house and he would let us all hang out there and play pool etc. It was a mix of boys and girls. We had teenage discos too where we definitely drank a lot. There was some ‘hanging around’ town which I didn’t like doing as it was boring and cold, so I usually stayed home during the day.

There would also have been many girls in my year who didn’t go to parties or drink. I think you’ll usually find a range of all types within a year group.

No alcohol parties at that age.

Bowling/cinema and overnight sleepovers.
School discos etc.

Mine never really got into the party scene anyway.

My DD would be friends with yours as would her friends. They have no interest in noisy, loud, drunken birthday parties.

DDs friend cooked them a three course meal for their birthday (aspiring chef). Another had a sleepover and board games night so they all bought her different board games for her birthday. I'm paying for them to go to a local fairground for a Halloween event and acting as a taxi which they chose as a group for DDs birthday. Another had theirs at a cat cafe with a quiz night.

Different group of teens do different things but I think yours is more the norm than a house party, overall attitudes to alcohol have changed alot over the years.

At weekends DD and her friends go to Costa and the cinema, local craft shop and the library to chat (quietly) as it has a well priced cafe. In the summer they spend a lot of time at the beach. Or they'll go to the park and take a picnic blanket and nip to the corner shop for a meal deal and picnic stuff and chat. None of them wander the streets in the evening, if they are out with each other they are at a house or on a purposeful night walk to see bats etc (they all did bushcraft type groups when little)