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Horrendous Neighbour Advice Please!

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crispychips · 05/10/2024 01:40

Hi, my new neighbour, who has only been in for about 7 months is a nightmare for many reasons but the worst is leaving his dog to roam around his flat next door and bark incessantly at night, sometimes until 3 or 4am. it's so loud and constant and sad. husband and i have asked him to make it stop about 6 times over the 7 months since he arrived. It's left us totally on edge as you never know when it will start or stop. Hubby is ill, and I'm already stressed to the total max. He's a young man, no cares, and laughed at my husband when he told him he had heart issues. we can't use the back of the house when it's happening.

Please give me some advice on how to deal with this man. We can't take it anymore. And no, we can't move. And even if we did, who is to say the same issue won't arise?! or worse..

He owns the flat and is a part freeholder.

Please help!! we're going crazy. xx

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Tittat50 · 05/10/2024 01:56

Is he in when it's happening? If so how can he stand it himself? Especially overnight.
If you own your house there can be problems when selling if you've made a complaint

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crispychips · 05/10/2024 02:02

Tittat50 · 05/10/2024 01:56

Is he in when it's happening? If so how can he stand it himself? Especially overnight.
If you own your house there can be problems when selling if you've made a complaint

Not sure if this is how to reply as I'm brand new here... It's happening mostly when he's out. But once we caught him in. He gets high so maybe that helps him drown out the noise?

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Tittat50 · 05/10/2024 02:23

This is so difficult. I'd personally phone the local council and don't give your name or address at this stage Ask for an overview of what legally if anytime can be done. Stay anonymous at this stage because the answer may be rubbish.

Councils have a dog warden - ask to speak to them for advice. Also ask Environmental Health at the Council the same question. Lastly, councils usually have an anti social behaviour dept. so you could also ask them.

I have worked for 2 of the above. My advice is don't just moan endlessly or over apologise. Be straight to the point and as calm as possible and say something like ' this is so regular, so loud and so disturbing from a noise perspective that it's having a significant impact on us. I'm very concerned for my husband who has a heart condition and is being woken up regularly. Please can you explain to me what options are available to potentially stop this '

The other option, you could also do this, is to write a really nice non aggressive note to neighbour. Take a copy of it as evidence. I'd write something like ' hi neighbour ( name). I know we have mentioned this before and I'm conscious of bothering you about it, but the dog barking is becoming incredibly difficult. Overnight the barking is particularly difficult and we're struggling to sleep because of it. We understand you can't always control a dog barking. It may be that he/ she is barking so much when they're on their own. Could we have a chat about it if possible?'

If it's as bad as you're saying then you don't have many options. Being snotty or aggressive probably won't work well here from what you've said. Trying nicely nicely is always best in the first instance I believe. After that you know you've tried everything reasonable and can then weigh up whether to complain formally.

RogueFemale · 05/10/2024 02:29

I would first try the local council noise nuisance team.

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crispychips · 05/10/2024 10:36

RogueFemale · 05/10/2024 02:29

I would first try the local council noise nuisance team.

yeah, i think this is a good bet

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Neverhurt · 05/10/2024 10:38

@Tittat50 has excellent advice

Singleandproud · 05/10/2024 10:39

You can't do much about him. You can control how you react to it though. White / grey noise machine so you are less likely to be woken up, ear plugs etc. it's not ideal but there aren't many more options unfortunately.

DeftHare · 14/02/2025 09:57

Dogs don't bark like that for no reason, the poor thing is asking for attention for something, I'd contact the RSPCA and report an animal in distress.
Also if it's a flat check if there are any clauses regarding pets?
Don't engage with him in person it will get worse.

sesquipedalian · 14/02/2025 10:01

“He gets high so maybe that helps him drown out the noise?”

So report him for drug use. I completely agree with DeftHare above - dogs don’t bark for nothing, and I would be going the RSPCA route.

BlueandPinkSwan · 02/07/2025 11:50

Tittat50 · 05/10/2024 01:56

Is he in when it's happening? If so how can he stand it himself? Especially overnight.
If you own your house there can be problems when selling if you've made a complaint

The OP could be living there a number of years but she doesn't want to listen to a dog barking for years on end.
I would def be speaking to the council about this and keeping a diary and ask for advice from RSPCA ime have been helpful with a previous neighbours dog.
Someone mentioned the drug thing and the police. Unless he is supplying or growing the stuff, the police probably won't be interested, but it doesn't hurt to ask though for advice.

RogueFemale · 04/07/2025 00:33

@DeftHare @sesquipedalian @BlueandPinkSwan This post is from October 2024.

NotThisShitAgain121 · 30/01/2026 18:35

Report him to the RSPCA for neglect.

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