My nephew has an on/off girlfriend of last couple of years. He has numerous issues and there have been many problems with him which I will not detail here as not the purpose of this thread. He and girlfriend are both 18. A few months ago she had a shock pregnancy (no-one knew, including her, until 2-3 weeks before baby was due). Baby was initially in temporary foster care but girlfriend has decided she wants to keep baby and is being supported by her family and social services. Nephew has little or no contact with baby. He does not live at home but in supported accomodation.
My DB has struggled with all of this but has not yet met his grandchild - nephew's girlfriend and he do not get on, and as girlfriend and nephew are so on/off he wouldn't see her much anyway. His ex-wife has a very good relationship with the girlfriend and is very supportive and has regular contact with the baby. She has very kindly offered to facilitate a meeting at her house so that DB can meet his grandchild. DB wants me to go with him as support for him and I am happy to do so - in fact I'm really keen to meet my great nephew as well as the girlfriend (I live a distance away so I haven't had opportunity to meet her before). My plan is to take some gifts for baby, as I would when visiting any new baby, possibly clothes and maybe a toy. I would also like to get a gift for the baby's mum but not sure what or if I should? I want to help build some bridges between her and DB and maybe establish some kind of relationship with her myself. I don't want to overwhelm her on first meeting - I'm a complete stranger to her - but do you think giving her a gift is a good idea? If so, what to get an 18yr old mum??