Pregnancy announcement

[Nmcl40]

Im 10 and a half weeks and the urge to tell people is getting real! I’ve my 12 week scan in 2 weeks and will be telling friends extended family then. Only immediate family and bosses know at the minute. Has anyone spilled the beans before then or managed to keep a secret? 3 pregnant girls in work and they haven’t a clue. I’ve been talking with them about baby names, stuff you can eat but I don’t think they suspect at all. I had a week 9 scan last week due to a concern but everything was great and healthy there’s always just that worry at the back of my mind

I told the people I’m closest to before my 12 week scan as I knew if the worst was to happen then those were the people who would support me through that so our family & best friends knew. It’s totally personal preference though. Good luck! X

I think it's quite an old fashioned view to keep things secret until 12 weeks. It used to be that pregnancy loss wasn't talked about, because it made people feel uncomfortable, but if anything were to happen, you would need support. The 12 week thing was all about sweeping it under the carpet and not talking.

Tell who you want, when you want, and congratulations 💐

I didn't tell work until I absolutely had to because I didn't want to be sidelined or considered to be less serious about my career.

They cannot do that legally.

They obviously can't do it explicitly but it still happens and is very difficult to evidence if it is done subtly.

They can’t, but lots of employer’s do, and as long as they don’t use pregnancy as the reason they get away with it

I’ve never understood the waiting til 12 weeks, but obviously people should share when they’re happy to share. I told close family and friends when I was 8/9 weeks (hadn’t had any scans), and then had a miscarriage at 11 weeks,I have zero regrets about sharing. It helped to have their support. Just think about who you’d be happy to tell if you did unfortunately have something go wrong, and it’s not like everything is guaranteed to be fine after 12 weeks. I told again early in my current pregnancy, including my manager at 6 weeks as I felt so unwell. I think the waiting til 12 weeks can hide how common miscarriages are, and creates a stigma that it shouldn’t be discussed.

I hate how ingrained the 12 week rule has become. Because if you miscarry you’d have to tell your extended family? Obviously people are free to follow that if they wish but it’s not something that shouldn’t be talked about. I think people who want to tell people don’t feel like they can sometimes.