Mad to be moving?

[Olymoia]

I'm 20 weeks pregnant in a very high risk pregnancy, already had one massive bleed. The risks are currently mainly cervix and a risky delivery to me of possible placenta issues and hemorrhaging (will be planned c section). I'm also high risk for other problems later on.

We were supposed to move house a few months back but it fell through, the chains back on but the house we are buying still hasn't found anywhere. I'm now wondering if we are mad to move, baby is due mid Feb but section would be 37/38 weeks (so end Jan early Feb) and I'm high risk for early labour, I would have to change my care team and hospital. My DS has also started in reception settled beautifully and walks to school. If we move school will be an hour round trip by the time we drop off, park etc.

Given the house we are buying hasn't found anywhere I imagine earliest we move would be December if lucky likely Jan depending on onward chain . We will financially be a lot worse off if we move immediately due to up front costs but also month to month , and my DS will have a new school, new house, new baby, new area all in one go.

We are moving over 2hours away. Would you stay put for now?

What’s the reason for moving? Can it be delayed by a couple years? We did a home move of about 2 hours and honestly, if we hadn’t done all the moving ourselves, literally all the packing and moving, no removals, it wouldn’t have been that stressful. But I think it’s a lot of change all at once for your 4 year old. Mine were 8 & 3 when we moved and they settled easily, so I think there are advantages for waiting til they are a bit older. But if it’s for work and you have to go, then you just make the most of it.

We will financially be a lot worse off if we move immediately due to up front costs but also month to month , and my DS will have a new school, new house, new baby, new area all in one go.

Sounds awful. You didn't write why you need to move?

I should have explained we are moving to be closer to family. Mainly my DM, and my Dad will be closer but still just under an hour away. The plan was to be in by July settled ahead of school but it all fell through, at the time of planning we also weren't planning another baby (as 5 different consultants told me I had no hope) hence this pregnancy being so high risk.

Not for jobs we both WFH, my DP office is where we live now although he doesn't go in much, my office is London and we live in the Midlands (but train is just over an hour, so when I do go in it's further from the new house).