Taken for granted or not

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I have an elderly neighbour, i check in on her get her newspapers and if I cook/bake I take something in for her. I went away for a few days when I came back I text her to say I was home (incase she heard movement in my house) I got no reply. 2 days later another neighbour informed me that she was in hospital, although I had seen her daughter going into the house whilst I was in the garden, the daughter knocked and told me I said I had heard her response was well he was at the door or else I would not have told anyone. Today is Sunday and someone told me that they thought they had seen my neighbour going into the house with her daughter on Friday. I heard nothing until today when a neighbour confirmed she was home. I feel so annoyed, should I be feeling like this or is it because I am feeling low anyway.

You might want to re-read your message for clarity. It is very difficult to to understand and that may be why you aren't getting a response.

Are you saying that that the family of you elderly neighbour, who you help our, haven't kept you up to date on her being in hospital and then coming home? If so you need to that much more clear.

If this is the case, have you considered that your neighbour hasn't shared with family how close you have been? I am sure if your neighbour has been well enough/wanted to tell you, her children would have. Her priority is recovering from whatever took her hospital and she may not be able to think of others.

It is a worrying time when your elderly parents are ill and communicating with neighbours might not top of the list. I am no-one intended to offend you.

It’s lovely that you look out for your neighbour. There could be a number of reasons why you haven’t been told that she is out of hospital. Maybe she doesn’t feel up to handling communications herself yet, and perhaps her daughter isn’t a communicative person. This is the sort of thing one focuses on when one is feeling low, but I would try not to jump to conclusions until you can see your neighbour in person and find out what’s been happening for her.