Lonely and fed up

[bumblealong]

I’m prepared to be told AIBU etc.

All throughout school I had a best friend from primary until we left sixth form. I then went onto university and she got married quite young. For some reason still unknown to me 25 plus years later, her husband took an instant dislike to me and told my friend I was rough. Needless to say, our friendship fizzled out.

I was never with the in crowd at school and was bullied and didn’t make lifelong friends. People I was friendly with at uni have all drifted away.

I have tried to make mum friends but they all seem to have their groups or non mum friends from previous times.

This weekend DH went away with some friends and it really hit me how lonely and isolated I feel. I’ve been feeling like this for a while, but I don’t know how to change things. I

Anybody else feel like this? How have you stopped feeling down and sorry for yourself?

I think it can be easy to feel isolated when you spend some time with people who don’t really get you. And that has got you thinking about someone who let you down in the past.

I think this is a blip and you will feel better soon. Although if you continue to feel the same way it might be a chance to make some new connections. All the best.

I understand how that feels, I also didn't enjoy school and although I do have friends, most of them do not live close so we don't see each other often.

I tried making friends with some mums at school which didn't work out and then my relationship broke down and I really did feel alone however it made me realise that I wanted to fill my life with people who made me feel positive so I worked on keeping the friends I have. It was a long road to get to a point where I'm happy to be by myself and you will get there but god knows it's hard at any age to make lasting friendship and what comes easy to some is definitely not easy for others.

Are there any groups near you that you could join. I hope the feeling passes for you soon.