Husband told a driver that he needed to get a hair transplant

[Elektrathon]

Hi all. I just wanted others' opinions on something my husband did earlier.

My husband and I were walking out of a hotel driveway in London. It was a bit unclear whether it was pedestrianised or not. A car came up behind us and hooted (not too loudly) a few times, because we were in the way - it gave us a shock. My husband knocked on his window as he drove past us, to show he was annoyed. The driver drove past us, then, when on the road, the driver rolled his window down and was gesturing to say 'What's the problem?'.

My husband then shouted across the road at him, 'you should get a hair transplant'.

I thought that a personal remark like this (since he was implying he was losing his hair) is unkind.

I told my husband it was unkind and I was upset with him, but he doesn't think he did anything wrong, and he got annoyed at me for being critical.

What do others think?

I agree with you

He was petty, he lowered himself to base insults. It was totally uncalled for

He also risked your safety - shouting insults across the street could end very badly, we all know that.

We humans make mistakes all the time - I hope he sees your point tomorrow, in the calm light of day, and can apologise.

Making remarks about personal appearance is uncalled for

It was horrible what he said but also tell your DH to never do that again. A lad I know knocked on a car window and the guy jumped out and now the lad is permanently deaf in one ear. You don’t know who you’re messing with and not everyone is sane. That would be more my concern- people can get a bit mental behind a wheel!

Your H is an arsehole and if he'd said that to anyone in my vicinity I would have provided him with such a detailed critique of his own physical appearance that he'd need therapy before appearing in public again.

Your husband sounds awful.

Totally uncalled for and personal. Why did he feel that was appropriate? I would expect an apology for that behaviour

Why didn't your DH just say 'Oh, its not clearly marked as a road' or 'smile, acknowledgment wave and get out of the way of the car?'
He might have been embarrassed for being in the wrong, but what an odd/weird thing to do/say, to knock on the window then make a bizarre, personal remark! Does DH have form from this? Does he have special needs? Its just such a weird thing to blurt out with, because I'm not sure he'd even been able to see how much hair the driver had with the window fully up whilst driving past! This is what makes be wonder if it was an instant attack, or feeling conscious himself about his own hair- no matter how ridiculous it sounded?
Only you know your DH OP!

Your husband was an arsehole for doing that, and is an even bigger one for not understanding that his behaviour upset you.

Does he regularly do stuff like this?
I think this is really unattractive behaviour and I wouldn’t want to go anywhere with someone who behaved like that.

If the driver had been a woman, what would he have said? Or a black man?
Surely he was looking for a response like "you need to get your eyes checked" (if sure he was in the wrong) rather than an unconnected insult

OTT reaction. Is it out of character for him?

Agree with PP, one day he's actually going to start a fight.

I am so superstitious that I would now assume your dh will lose all his hair in the night.

He should have said something more along the lines of,
"My Dad could beat up your Dad".
Now that really would have put the taxi driver in his place.

I think he’s an idiot. He was in the way. The driver warned him using the horn as is normal. He should have just waved acknowledgement like a normal person. I’d be embarrassed to be with a person if he does / says things like that.