Please cheer me up….desperate!!

[Bobbieiris]

Hi guys, going through an incredibly tough time. Had my two beautiful identical twin girls almost 8 weeks ago , they were 10 weeks premature . Thankfully they are both thriving and should be discharged home next week. But I am in intense pain. Doctors have said I overdid it caring for the girls on neonatals, also walking too much (I had been told to walk 20 minutes a day to heal from C section) and I also strained a muscle in my groin when a nurse suddenly pulled my chair into recline without warning me first. It’s awful pelvic pain. I’ve been told it will heal but with time.I also had one twin via vaginal delivery and one via emergency c section. I’m on strong pain meds and when the girls are home I’m setting myself up in the bedroom so I don’t need to move much and my partners mum is coming to stay. I don’t have family or many friends locally. My mum has Covid at the moment so can’t stay.one of my girls is also going home on oxygen which is daunting. I can see many long weeks of being in the bedroom and isolated. Girls are adorable and I love them but it’s incredibly hard and scary. Doctor has said to go back to GP for further investigations if pain doesn’t heal. Please help me cheer up a little…or general chit chat to get my mind off things

Congratulations on your twin girls 🙂
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@Kandalama thank you ☺️ yes I’m so relieved that the girls are ok! I think I must have sprained a muscle or something after the C section as the pain started about 4 or 5 weeks ago. In hindsight I should have rested then and not hobbled onto the hospital and been on my feet all day. My GP has now told me to stay at home and not use stairs so I’m a bit of a prisoner in my bedroom 🙁 really missing my girls! They will be home next week and my partner mum will be looking after them until I can, she is also staying in the hospital with them over the weekend

@DanFmDorking thank you so much, they made me laugh! ☺️

How are you feeling now OP?

@RickyGervaislovesdogs up and down to be honest. I’ve been resting at home and feeling much better, although missing my girls! But today my mental health is getting the better of me! I do struggle with anxiety and I do wonder how much of the pain is made worse by anxiety last night I went downstairs and sat on the sofa for 4 hours and today my partner helped me shower. My brain is now going crazy wondering if I have harmed myself by doing this, then I tense up and think oh here comes the pain. Sounds ridiculous I know but unfortunately that’s how my anxiety works. I’m just trying to keep my mind off it and rest and I have a councelling phonecall at 4. I just want to see my girls so much but there is so much pressure on the ward and it stresses me out and I also don’t want to make things worse by walking from the car to the car park

@Bobbieiris I think anyone would be stressed, anxious, etc at what you are going through. It’s nobody’s dream start to motherhood is it. Honestly I would allow yourself to feel down about it, pain is draining and it’s a pretty shitty situation isn’t it. You are strong and brave, people handle things differently. When DD was about 18 months I had to go in to hospital. DH would visit and she would cry as she left and it broke me, so I’d cry under the covers like a total weirdo after they left. On the bonus side I lost quite a bit of weight!

You are blessed with a lovely family, support and this situation will pass. Your pain will lessen in time. Practically speaking, could you get a wheelchair maybe? I’m sure this has probably been thought of but just an idea. I’m sure you’d be ok to hobble downstairs and not set yourself back too. Moving around slowly and carefully should be ok? Nighttime is a bit of a bugger, nothing going on to take your mind off it is there. How about watching Netflix on a tablet or laptop with headphones… I started watching ‘behind her eyes’ sheesh started well and now it’s all weird!

In other news, I managed to fall on the floor in the bedroom today- which DH found hilarious 😤 lol BUT it sort of loosened me up a bit, tiny little bit, so the sciatica isn’t so bad! Woo hoo. DD is at a friend’s house, so I’m cleaning the bathroom and messaging on here.

@RickyGervaislovesdogs thank you ☺️ I am such an over thinker and I get myself in this awful negative spiral where I worry that I will have to live with the pain forever, and then intense up from stress and feel even worse!! Trying to distract myself with married at first sight (please don’t judge me 😂) .

a friend of mine from work has managed to borrow a wheelchair for me and is taking me out for a bit of a walk and change of scene tomorrow.

baby’s are home on Monday!! I am so excited to see them but also do nervous! Partners mum willl be doing everything over night then have a bit of sleep and get up and help me in the afternoons, but I will be alone in the mornings! GP had said to double the pain meds and go slowly!

oh dear, I hope you are feeling ok after your fall!

@Bobbieiris Nothing wrong with a bit of MAFS! 😂 and breathe! Actually what you should do is binge watch, because once those babies come home you’ll have your hands full!

Aww brilliant! Fresh air will do you the world of good, meant to be dry and crisp tomorrow (well it is here, hopefully where you are too!).

😍Monday!!!! No time at all, eat, lots of water and rest up. Get things ready- a kitchen roll, wet wipes, and lots of towels upstairs will be a must and a little bin! (Maybe ear plugs for overnight, at least get a few hours sleep in as the activity will wake you up- don’t get overdoing it).

All good here thank you 🙌 had a lovely bath, now have some crisps and glass of wine! with DDog. DD will be back from her play date shortly, DH is ironing. Hope we both sleep well!

@RickyGervaislovesdogs ive never watched so much TV in my life! 😂
i’m so excited for them coming home and can’t wait to see them but also so nervous!! I need to find a way to ground myself I think! Very lucky to have all the help though!
sounds like a lovely evening ☺️