Anyone else effing exhausted by the relentlessness of family life?

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And this is with a hands-on DH. 5yr old and 18 month old. House constantly a mess. Incessant whingeing. Not looking for solutions, just solidarity. Huge respect to single parents and mums with crap husbands. Exhausted.

Yes. It’s relentless. I also have an amazingly hands on DH too. Do you have family nearby op? We don’t, which seems to compound it. Taking it in turns and making sure we each get some time to ourselves at some point during the weekend helps.

Me!! Sending you strength!
I have spent the morning 'cleaning' the house.. only for my children to completely trash the place behind me!
The house is clean but now all toys have been pulled out!!
My tumble drier also broke 3 days ago.. and with lots of rain the washing has piled up!! We have a new one being delivered today.. you wouldn't believe the size of the washing pile!.. kids are 9,5 & 2 🤯

We do have my very helpful DM nearby but she's been away for the past 3 weeks so we've had a taste of what it's like without her, and ofc all got ill in that time! It's so difficult. I know how lucky we are to have my mum.

And yes the taking turns thing does really help. Hope you can get some rest this weekend!

Omg the washing 🤦‍♀️ I can't imagine having 3!!

Totally get this and we only have one toddler. Trying to keep a clean house when you have kids is like trying to brush your teeth while eating Oreo's.

Yes, I found the early years very hard. Especially having a baby and toddler. I found it got easier the older they were though. Mine are 17 and 20 and I've found the teen years a lot easier than having a baby and toddler

I found the toddler stage horrendous, I barely had time to sit down. Primary school age now but constantly complaining they’re bored and wanting me to entertain them or getting in huge physical fights. Find the winter hard as not much to do indoors round here

Hang on in there OP. It will get easier. My kids are now 7 and 3 (nearly 8 and 4 as both birthdays soon). I remember when they were 5 and 1 and I was back at work and just finding it absolutely impossible and like you say just totally relentless. I mean it's still pretty full on now in some ways but nothing like it was. They even play together now sometimes instead of fighting all the time. This morning I've managed to get up and have a coffee and some toast in relative peace. Not so long ago that would have seemed like the impossible dream!!

It is relentless, and in different ways depending on the kids and their ages (and our personal tolerance I guess). Possibly rose-tinted glasses but I remember the toddler years as utterly exhausting but also enormous fun. Now they're 16 and 19, we get to sleep more but it's emotionally relentless, which I am finding much harder.

Yes it's so hard, especially when they are little. I'm at the other side of it now with teens who get up late and I can go the gym/ shops without having to consider them.
👊 stay strong. It does get easier.

Solidarity!! My DC are almost exactly the same age. I think it's just impossible to have everything under control with DC at this age. At least it is for me!

Yep solidarity. Amazing hands on humans. 3 DCs are 6, 2 and 3 months.
I'm on mat leave so thought I'd get some respite whilst the older ones at school/nursery after the summer holidays to tidy/clean which I know is temporary before the small one can create mess but as it happens at least one of them is always ill at the moment. Life is stressful which will only be exacerbated when I go back to work soon

Yep - me🙋‍♀️

Teens up till all hours, younger DC up crack of dawn. DH does help but life is just exhausting with all the extra curricular activities not just weekday evenings but also weekends occasionally.