Going out for a meal not looking forward to it

[Tomanynames]

Me and my family are going out tonight . To a family restaurant. We have not been out for a couple of years I really want to be looking forward to it. Which I kind of am.

But adult dd makes things so hard which is why we don't go out. Shes slways shouting /over the top nagging at her son. She's does lt on buses as well to the point a stranger will tell her to leave it. That's calmed down now since I started traveling with her. In restaurant she raises her voice enough for other people to turn round and start looking. Then because she's going on so much gs then starts crying.

We just want to have a nice family meal a nice chat feel happy. That's it. But everyone is worried dd Is going to start . We are planning on sitting gs away from her and hoping that will help .

That's very sad. The poor boy. Is there a reason for her behaviour? Is her boy challenging? Does your DD have mental health problems? It's no excuse but it sounds like she's not coping.

I would point blank refuse to tolerate it. If she can’t behave like a grown adult then she absolutely would not be invited out with me. I feel bad for her poor DS! Would DD let you look after him for the night at the other end of the table so at least she doesn’t start to kick off? Was she like this growing up?

Also agree with PP re: mental health issues. This is not acceptable or remotely normal behaviour for a grown adult, let alone one who is meant to be a role model and mother to a child!

Have you spoken to her about how she treats her son?

She does have bipolar. Different meds are being tried out. It's been like this for a very long time. But diagnosed maybe 9 months ago. But obviously she had it before diagnosis.

This is why we have not been out for a long time. But we feel so guilty saying everyone can come apart from you've. So we just haven't been out.

Yes we are going to sit gs away from her. That won't be a problem.

Teen ds said something to her about it and she started going on about mum of the year etc . But that's not what it's about. No one on the world is mum of the year. We simply want to have a nice evening.