Episiotomy not heeled together at all I’m so upset

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Had a forceps delivery 3 weeks ago stitches have dissolved but I haven’t healed together yet. My stitches on my bum part have healed but my vagina hasn’t it’s gapping open still. I have an appointment next week with my doctor but I’m wondering what they will do. Will they leave me like this or stitch me up at a later date. I’m struggling with how it looks the pain is better although I have a big graze on the inside causing issues I can finally move about. I’m really upset by how I look and slightly traumatised from the pain and now how I look.

You poor thing. Definitely chase this up - while obviously you're not going to be exactly the same down there if the wound hasn't healed it needs restitching or surgery at a later date to repair it.

Absolutely chase up ASAP. Don’t let them fob you off. Get well soon.

I’m so sorry to hear this, OP. No advice other than to say keep on advocating for yourself. I hope you can find a proactive and positive thinking HCP.

Oh my lovely, sending you a massive cuddle, that all sounds incredibly uncomfortable. Are you still in a lot of pain? Do not hesitate to call 111 or visit A&E if you are concerned. Not to alarm you, but if your stitches were not done properly, it could lead to infection so you’ve definitely done the right thing by booking in an appointment. They cannot leave you like this.

I’ve already had the infection a been in hospital for it. Midwife signed me off and then that night I ended with the infection. Will see what the doctor says this week.

Firstly, I was you almost exactly 1 year ago to the day!. Episiotomy and forceps and not healing. Birth does change things down there but 3 weeks is still very very new so give it time. Things will still change alot over the next few months. However, make sure you do get checked out by doctor or midwife regularly to make sure your healing. I am now healed and it is more open than before. A year ago I was mortified and so so so upset, even crying at the doctor's etc. now it hardly bothers me. I've been to see gynaecologist privately and they all say it's not a problem. You will be ok ❤️ focus on your new little baby and resting looking after yourself and your new little one. I hope this helps. I didn't want to read and run as I remember how upset I was before xx

Really feel for you OP. I had an episiotomy in June and honestly am slightly traumatised from the whole experience too. Mine has taken a long time to heal, I think because I’ve had a few other health issues going on so my body hasn’t been working as quickly as usual. Last week the GP told me an abscess had formed under the episiotomy site and it would need surgically drained and I was distraught about having to go through it all again (and she had the nerve to ask why I was upset?!) but in the end the gynae at the hospital said it was just a bit infected and prescribed a course of antibiotics so all the upset for nothing.

it does take time and can take longer than what the internet suggests to start looking and feeling normal again. As PPs have said though, keep an eye on it and absolutely advocate for yourself with the GP if something doesn’t feel quite right.

I promise it will get better.

Hi OP. I had a similar issue when I had my daughter a few years ago. Just to manage your expectations, as other posters have said you should be restitched or offered surgery, this was not what was recommended for me. I waited 8 months for the wound to fully heal, they wouldn't do any further intervention in case they encased an infection. Please speak to your GP for some reassurance, but don't be alarmed if the advice is to let it heal. It will get better.

the graze on the inside is so painful when did everyone’s grazes heel ?

I had one 23 years ago, took two hours to stitch me up. Despite that I can remember a gap (basically a hole). No other intervention was taken. Fast forward, obviously its all healed, I do have a little lumpy tissue in one part, DH reckons he can't feel it, but considering the amount of stitching, that's nothing.

It's still early days, but hope you recover soon.

I found my grazes MUCH more painful than my stitches too. I think it’s totally normal but I don’t know why

@Sunnyside4 hoe long do you think it took for the hole to heal

I had very similar. Wouldn't heal after 10, 12 weeks or something. The GP used silver nitrate on a swab to cautherize it. Had to be done twice. Surprised no one else has mentioned it. It did clear it up and all good now

If in any doubt OP just pay to see a private gynae