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Dinodrivingacar · 27/09/2024 19:25

Hi I'm looking for some advice on a situation. So last year my therapist reported my husband to the police for domestic assault and control based on what I had told her in sessions. The police arrested him. I was spoken to by the police and said it was a misunderstanding it wasn't abuse etc. he has handed me some documents today for a subject access request and freedom of information. He has named himself as all correspondence to go to following this request and put his name as some person that will be dealing with it on my behalf. I didn't know he was doing this. He handed me the paper and told me to sign it. He got mad at me when I said I'd read and sign it. He told me I should just trust him. Where do I go from here?? I can't have this happen. But I can't make him stop. He has all my id and filled in ally details. Surprised he didn't fake my signature to be honest. How do I tell him I won't do it??

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LIZS · 27/09/2024 19:36

Who is the dsar to ? Is it in your name or his? To what end does he want it? Certain information will be redacted or protected. Why did you withdraw your complaint?

Whothefuckdoesthat · 27/09/2024 19:52

Is it to find out who made the complaint to the police?

I think you need to contact Women's Aid for advice. They’ll understand that it often takes women a while before they’re ready to leave and they’ll be best placed to help you, while assessing how safe you are.

I hope you manage to get out soon 💐

Dinodrivingacar · 27/09/2024 19:56

The request is to the police for their information. He wants to know what I have said to them.

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Dinodrivingacar · 27/09/2024 19:57

Whothefuckdoesthat · 27/09/2024 19:52

Is it to find out who made the complaint to the police?

I think you need to contact Women's Aid for advice. They’ll understand that it often takes women a while before they’re ready to leave and they’ll be best placed to help you, while assessing how safe you are.

I hope you manage to get out soon 💐

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neepsa · 27/09/2024 20:25

Dinodrivingacar · 27/09/2024 19:56

The request is to the police for their information. He wants to know what I have said to them.

Don’t sign it. Call the police and tell them. Ring Women’s Aid. Leave. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s the only option.

You are looking for answers on MN and you know there aren’t any easy options.

  1. You sign it - deal with his wrath and likely further abuse.
  2. You don’t sign it - deal with his wrath and likely further abuse.

He has backed you into a corner.

Get out and be safe ❤️

Dinodrivingacar · 29/09/2024 19:01

So I got the effort to tell him I wasn't going to sign it. He is now in a monster of a mood with me. First tried to tell me how he was just doing this for my own good so I didn't have to, then getting angry saying I must have something to hide, then the icing on the cake, as usual, telling me I'm just like my mum... Which he knows is the killer. I'm staying strong though. I tried to explain why I was upset at what he did but he just called me stupid without even trying to understand. Think he might have gone out.... 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Scutterbug · 29/09/2024 19:03

Is there anywhere you can go and stay for a while?

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