Soon to be homeless - I need positivity

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Hi all

I know I probably shouldn’t be looking for positivity on the internet but I’m soon to be homeless with my 4 year old son.

Long story short, currently divorcing my abusive ex husband who has done everything in his power (including making himself purposefully bankrupt during our divorce) to make me lose everything. Unfortunately he’s succeeded, no house, no car, no savings, nothing, but the bright side is my son and I are finally safe.

Due to incredibly drawn out court proceedings my son and I will be homeless probably by Christmas time.

Aside from feeling like a failure, I’m crying everyday walking around my house knowing it’s being taken away from us.

Anyway I’d love to hear some positive stories from anyone who was in a similar situation.

(We will be most likely placed in temporary accommodation which I’ve heard the horror stories about so if you have any positive stories or happy endings about your experience, I’d greatly appreciate it).

I have read on threads here before that men doing this on finances is financial crime. Not sure what he did, but your lawyer should be able to order investigation?

Unfortunately not. Even though I could prove financial abuse (and it continued after he left) the court system has done nothing to help or reprimand him. They don’t really care to be honest.

Sorry to hear this. At least you are free. You will be fine, eventually
I hope the women with experience will come shortly and start posting to encourage you with facts

I’m sorry you’re going through this OP.

The temporary accommodation will be just that, temporary. At the end of it all you will be housed, safely, with your son. Hold on to that x

Can you contact Rights of Women for free legal advice. Something doesn't sound right.

If you phone the National Domestic Abuse Helpline, they might be able to advise on housing including a refuge.

You can also phone Shelter for advice.

Have you spoken to the council?

You’ll be fine believe me. You have your son and your safe from an abusive useless piece of S. .T. In a short while - it won’t seem like it , But, you’ll be sorted and you and your son will have a good life. Your ex is the loser in all this.
I do hope you have some good friends, family to lean on.
Take care and believe in yourself. You’re a strong woman.
Take care and don’t look back.

You will be free. Your child won’t mind in the long run. Have a small Christmas, look out for a local Christmas choral service to look forward to.

Is your son in nursery or school? They will make Christmas nice, a performance and making stuff, maybe do some home made decorations with him in your new accommodation? Glitter helps.