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I finally made a formal complaint about a bullying coworker

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namechangedforthis24 · 26/09/2024 18:13

I’ve been struggling for months with a coworker who’s made my work life incredibly difficult, and today I finally made a formal complaint. She’s belittling, patronising, and constantly talks down to me and others as if we're stupid. She often makes sarcastic comments when I ask work-related questions and seems to take pleasure in making me feel small. This is the second complaint made against her this year. My previous colleague left because of it and we were previously warned when starting the job that she is difficult to work with.

On top of that, she’s passive-aggressive, does a nasty sarcastic smile whilst saying something not particularly nice. To make things worse, she’s made personal, patronising remarks about my appearance.

Has anyone ever had an experience like this? I'm now regretting my actions as I feel my job could be put on the line as I've opened a can of worms. Management has protected her for years and made excuses for her but I've had enough.

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Mississipimudpie · 02/10/2024 21:16

Ohthatsabitshit · 26/09/2024 18:23

I think that was a brave thing to do. Try for the life you want or you are unlikely to get it.

Love this!!

Iknowitstooearly · 02/10/2024 23:59

Well done you! I've been where you are. It took me YEARS to make an official complaint, but it go to the point of I needed to do that or leave. She wasn't forcing me out of my job. She'd been in trouble before but always seemed to get away with it. I felt awful making that complaint, I felt physically sick with worry of the back lash of speaking up. I was supported well and little did I know they 2 others were also making complaints about her, as had others. Turns out I was the last in link in the chain to get her out. I turned up one day for work and she was gone, had been moved to another department on another site. The relief I felt, I really didn't realise how much of an impact she was having on Me until she was gone. I love my job (mostly) again now. It's such a hard thing to do, well done for being so brave xx

ChiliFiend · 03/10/2024 23:45

Call ACAS for free advice on this - they're like Citizen's Advice but they specialise in employment law so they will know exactly what to do (assuming you are in the UK). Good luck

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