Would you find it acceptable to ask money to attend a party?

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Everyone has a job, including the hosts, all adults in their twenties (25 to 28).
Hosts are requesting a £5 contribution per guest that would cover food, decoration, game (themed game party) etc...

It's only a small party in a flat, no hall, max 20ish people.

Would you accept the invitation and pay or would you find it cheeky?

Thank you

Reality is even if you did ask you aren't going to get a fiver off 20 people without either killing yourself or the friendship in the process. You would be lucky to get £50 back, and some people would find it a bit odd that you even asked.

Scale back, ask people to bring drinks.

If it's a joint decision between the whole group as the best way for them to socialise together as frequently as possible, then surely it makes sense.

When money is tight as it is in your twenties when youre staring out, then whilst it's all very well to say the host must pay, then the actual outcome of that is not very many social gatherings.

If this became the norm, then quality of life would improve as you could socialise cheaply.

I wouldn't pay to attend someone's party, especially in their home. I'd politely decline the invitation but make it clear that the "admission fee" was the reason why.

Exactly.

I think so many people are missing the point here.

Think outside the etiquette box. This way results in more socialising with friends.

Its simple, cheap and fair.

You don't put it on the invite as a fee. Just next time you're out (paying a fortune at a bar) with your friends you say 'I'd really like to socialise more with you guys and going out us expensive. How about we take turns hosting but everyone contributes then no one is out of pocket? What do you think?'

My exh had a group of friends who did this, and their quality of life was so high. Parties every weekend at one house or another. Higher quality of food and drink than the equivalent going out price. They even included in the kitty the cost of a cleaner for the aftermath.

Just reading the whole thread now and it's blowing my mind that so many people would rather not spend a lovely evening with their friends, if they had to give a £5 contribution to it!! Batshit. And completely cutting off your nose to spite your face.

Most people will show up with alcohol worth more than £5 tbh. If you ask for money I think it'll be seen as instead of bringing a gift/drink and it'll cost you more in refreshments than £100.

I don't think that's really what people are saying. It's all about how it's done.

It's definitely rude to ask for money for someone to come to a party at your house. That said, it's not rude to ask people to bring a contribution such as drink - people won't find it rude and will probably happily contribute drink that is worth more than a fiver.

I wouldn't ask for money but I think you could word it that you thought it would be nice to all catch up and you would be happy to host if everything could kindly help by bringing a dish, snack, drink.