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Should I be bribing my DD13 to read?

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crazypiglady · 23/09/2024 12:00

DD13 used to love stories but has always struggled a bit with reading, at primary school I asked for a dyslexia assessment but they never put her in for one, saying she was too young to tell at the time. To get around this either I read with her or she listened to her book on Audible, which she loved. Now she’s y9 & won’t read anything or listen to any books on Audible. She’s had an assessment through school which has suggested coloured glasses or an overlay may help but she’s refusing to use either in school. We are saving to have a private dyslexia assessment as she says the words sort of fuzz, lines move and her eyes water with white paper. I love reading, it brings me great comfort, so I’m a bit devastated that she hates it so much because I think she’s missing out. My Mom has suggested a payment per book or a certain amount of chapters to earn screen time after school. But another family member has suggested I should leave her & back off, that not everyone loves reading and that’s ok. I don’t know what to do for the best.

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boulevardofbrokendreamss · 23/09/2024 20:57

Dts are 13 and dyslexic, one of them has visual stress too. Reading is non negotiable on a school night. I don't care what they read but they have to read.

crazypiglady · 23/09/2024 21:01

forensicsnail · 23/09/2024 20:40

I would back off, my eldest is dyslexic in year 9 and doesn't really read any more. He does listen to audiobooks but nearly exclusively non-fiction ones. One of the things his Dyslexia assessor said is do not under estimate how mentally tiring it is to get through the school day. I personally would not be forcing a child to do something at home that you know they struggle with when they are getting plenty of exposure to it at school.

I’d never actually thought of that thank you so much for raising it, I’m so aware that emotionally she’s drained at the end of the school day but I’d never thought about her reading stamina being exhausted too, that’s a really good point.

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crazypiglady · 23/09/2024 21:02

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 23/09/2024 20:57

Dts are 13 and dyslexic, one of them has visual stress too. Reading is non negotiable on a school night. I don't care what they read but they have to read.

What do they read and how do you encourage them to do it? The older my DD gets, the more I realise I cant (& probably shouldn’t) ‘force’ her to do anything.

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Pieceofpurplesky · 23/09/2024 21:07

Please don't force her/pay her etc. it is not a non negotiable. Her brain is working overtime reading at school just to get on - the interactive whiteboard that will probably have busy slides that her brain needs to process, worksheets, books - she will be exhausted. Make a compromise - an audio book every other night? She will absorb the vocabulary.
Please try to get her to use the overlay or speak to SENDCO about her having work copied on to the correct colour paper.

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