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Is there something wrong with me? I don't have strong opinions on things anymore

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tiredwoman123 · 20/09/2024 21:24

I definitely still have opinions on certain topics, like politics and my work. But things in my own life that I used to really really care about and obsess over, just don't take up much of my brain space anymore.

Im 28. I've had a crazy year. Done a full time masters while working full time, moved house, been really ill, got better, got a puppy, got engaged, in the middle of an extension, and have planned a whole wedding.

Our last house I spent months going back and forth on every detail, paint colours, furniture, the new bathroom. Planning every single little thing.

This time around I just don't care. Not in a negative way, I still want it to look nice, but it's just like it doesn't really matter that much.

Talking about honeymoon destinations, I just don't really mind! I know we'll have a gorgeous time wherever we go. But me a couple of years ago would be constantly googling everything about every destination we could possibly go to.

People keep asking me 'what are your plans for x room?' And I just don't really have answers

It feels odd to me. I don't feel low in mood or anxious or anything, I just feel more laid back about things.

Anyone else? Is it just part of growing up and getting older or is there something wrong with me?

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setmestraightplease · 20/09/2024 21:51

@tiredwoman123 There's absolutely nothing wrong with you!

You've done it and realised it's not that important.

I think we just get to the stage of realising that it's not material things that are important - how things look, or what we have, or where we go, or what colour we decorate.
It's our relationships that are important - everything else is just 'chatter' that we think is important because of peer pressure to be 'as good as everyone else' .

I don't know why we think it's so important, but we do for some reason!

Carry on being laid-back - I think it makes a lot of sense :)

minipie · 20/09/2024 21:53

You grew up.

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