LDR/patchy contact - am I being needy?

[PrueHal]

I think the answer is probably yes!

When I first met my partner he was doing a PhD and was so busy I wondered if a relationship could work. He always would switch his phone off while working for hours at a time.

This more or less eased off eventually and he's been available more over the summer.

Suddenly he is back to working most weekends like when we met a year ago, switches his phone off for hours and takes a while to reply.

Last Sunday I told him I was unwell at 5pm and he didn't read it until the next morning! Yesterday I messaged him again at 5pm and still no response yet

An I being needy or does he need to stay in touch more given we are LDR?

I'm seeing him next week for 4 days at least.

Anyone? I last heard from him 2pm yesterday. I can see he's been posting on Twitter this morning as well.

Maybe this is more normal after a year but I find it quite rude.

There’s no right or wrong answer, only what he’s prepared to give and what you’re prepared to accept.

It’s not a new thing; you’ve had experience of what he’s like when he’s studying and he increases contact during the periods he’s not studying. If you want to carry on with him, then you have to accept that this is just how it is for now. And I know it can be annoying to see him on Twitter but not replying to you, but I expect he needs some downtime to decompress and just empty his brain, without having to either learn stuff or be nice and considerate to you, which takes energy even if you consider yourself to be low maintenance.

If it isn’t enough for you, and you don’t want to wait for a time when he’s less busy, then walk away. If everything else is good, personally I think I’d hold on, especially if he’s working towards a life for you together. Have you talked about the future?