Would you marry into a family you don't like?

[lopdopop]

If the family (mum and dad) don't like you, and you really don't like them.

But you love their son.

Would you marry into the family?

There is a difference between disliking but being civil, friendly and accepting that someone you love loves someone you don’t like compared to not being able to act that way.

Depends on how the son will handle it. Would they be able to keep their mouths shut? Or would they badmouth you to him? Would he be able to be stuck in the middle? It usually rips people apart. Would you be able to be polite?

Nope. No, nein, nietsch. Unless you're confident that he's completely got your back and will always always prioritize you above his family and never side with them against you. Then maybe. But forever is a long time to be tied to people you don't get on with.

I guess it depends what partner’s relationship with his family was like, and how much contact I’d be expected to have. If he was in their pockets and went round for dinner twice a week for example, then probably not as it would always be awkward/miserable.
It would also depend on whether they were able to at least be civil to me, despite their dislike.

I feel like I say this all the time on MN but … love alone is not enough. There has to be so much more that binds you together, including family. On that basis, I absolutely wouldn’t marry someone if I hated their parents.

No. I wouldn't want to have all that dislike hanging around. Plus the DH would always be piggy in the middle which sounds wretched.

These people will be your DCs grandparents if you have children together. I’d have to be VERY certain DH would back me up every time and preferably live 100s of miles away with very little contact, it is possibly not enough even then.