Is anyone else just f***ing exhausted

[Mamarnd2]

Feel like there just aren’t enough hours in the day at the minute. Between working 7-5 four days a week, having a one year old, being pregnant and trying to keep on top of housework, cooking, cleaning it just feels like I’m constantly exhausted. It gets to 9pm and I’m really to collapse into a heap. Anyone else feel like this

It’s full on OP!

What can you outsource / what’s your DH doing?

My survival technique is having a cleaner to do whole house / beds / ironing etc every week - and having rock bottom standards on midweek meals (a lot of ‘batch cooking’ ie eating leftovers a lot).

I still am exhausted, go to bed early and don’t get a lot of ‘me’ time - but it means I don’t feel like I need to be completing tasks every second I’m awake.

Me too. I work part time, have dc, dh works long hrs, now I've become a pt carer for mil.
I'm comfort eating a bit too much and being on screens constantly in my downtime and I was just thinking this morning that these two things need to change.

Yeah we have a cleaner coming in but even at that I feel like I have to tidy before she comes so even that’s a job in itself.

I don’t even care about me time as such it’s more just being able to sit with my husband in the evenings and have a conversation without falling asleep.

At the minute he has a massive massive project ongoing (outside of work) which should finish up early November so that’ll make a world of difference once that’s complete. I feel bad sometimes because a part of me can’t wait for it to be over but on the other hand it something he loves and I love too to be honest just not when I’m dead on my feet all the time

Oh goodness I can’t imagine becoming a carer on top of it all. It’s so easy though isn’t it to just grab the nearest thing to eat especially when you feel like you haven’t time to do anything else

I think being pregnant too is contributing. I had wild fatigue when I was in the first 12 weeks with my son and usually had to nap for an hour during the day but back then I had more time to do the house etc so I was able to take an hour to sleep. That luxury is now gone. I’m not complaining because I’m so thankful to be pregnant again, it’s just so bloody tiring

I have three much older dcs as in teens and primary aged I’m totally exhausted too, late 30’s so could be age related. No family support so it’s very full-on all the time . I exercise when I can and I notice that boosts my energy.

@Mamarnd2 to be honest, I've never been as exhausted as I was when pregnant with no.2 and then when he was a baby!
Sadly, life becomes one exhausting day after another
Get food/shopping/meals and laundry organised as those two things seem to control life and take up most of the time available.
Get rest, downtime and naps when you can.

Me too! Pregnant, 2 yr old and big dog. My work day can be frantic at times then straight to evening family needs, collapse for an hour mindlessly with the tv then bed. Cleaning.... Hmmm, definitely deprioritised. Only done during the toddler nap or if I take a day off work. Husband helps, but also has shorter work hours and seems to get much more "me time"

I keep wondering if feeling like that is my new normal . Working, 18 month old, dog etc etc - I am always either down with a virus or not sleeping or just plain exhausted. I long for the day I could wake up feeling refreshed!!

Yup I feel like absolutely everyone I know feels like this the last few years. Everyone has so much on and so many issues. I don’t know if it’s because I’m now getting to the age where most people I know have kids and older parents. I guess that would make sense. But for me it’s a combo of:
•chronic illness (mine)
•retraining/building up new career (exciting but haven’t rested for months as always lots to do. Love it but would like to sit on the sofa)
•DH very stressed at work
•one toxic parent / NC (DH)
•one long-term ill parent who could go on another couple of decades but can’t get out of bed
•3 kids and all their clubs, homework, needs, love, feeding (the feeding is relentless), all the different school and nursery apps bombarding me all day every day
•mental load of everything. Having to feed everyone healthily, making sure actual future adults are going to be OK. Planning birthday parties for the kids. Play dates. Appointments. School meetings.
• facilitating relationships for the kids (grandparents, their friends etc)
•then you get to all the obvious stuff that does get done: laundry, social life etc
• then you get to the obvious stuff that never gets done: exercise, gardening
• then you finally reach things you would like to do but never get to because the to do list above never ends eg decorating the house, getting a cat, learning to knit or skateboard or whatever.

I think the key is to take some things from my last bullet point and make them a priority, that’s the fun bit of life!

Oh and skincare! Bloody skincare! Flossing! But a dream.

My husband has booked to take me away for a night once his project is over and has organised my mum to take the baby and I swear I am living for it. In a weird way it’s a relief to hear other people feel the same.

it’s funny we all caught a bug a few months back and we couldn’t just rest up because of the baby. My mum took the same bug and was able to rest for a few days because we are all adults now and I was like thinking to myself well I least I know there will come a day I can relax again lol

Being pregnant with a toddler will do it!

My husband and I are both pretty shattered with a 2yo and 3yo and no family nearby. I feel like I'm either wrangling kids or working. I often fall asleep reading to my son before 8pm but I just got tested and have low iron which won't be helping.

Working full-time with a 2yo (& a dog & other pets - I really like making my life harder...). Soooo tired.

I really need to get a cleaner but my house is so cluttered so I need to declutter first, & then I need to actually look for a cleaner and it all feels too much.

I'm considering doing a standing supermarket delivery for the food shop, but Aldi is quite a bit cheaper...

The only small thing that has helped recently is making something like pasta with a tomato sauce (I try & add diced mushrooms, spinach, courgette etc) and freezing in small portions so that, if I really cannot face cooking, I have something very quick (1.5 min in the microwave) to feed 2yo DS.

Yes I’m the same - low iron and on tablets. I was meant to get an iron infusion just before I had the baby but he came early

@ButterAsADip I could have written your list. OP I feel you.
Before I have even started work this morning I have:
*Continuously cagouled DC out of bed for over an hour; having cleaned, dried and ironed uniforms at the weekend & made packed lunches to cover several days
*fed the cat/empty litter tray/clean up some mess the cat made in the night
*put the rubbish out & bring the bins in from the boundary after the bin men this morning
*drop DC to school, getting petrol on the way
*made the beds & quick tidy round in the bedrooms
*spent ages trying to find something on email I needed to send DC for school
*emptied the dishwasher & reloaded

Now to start work.

I need to wash my hair today, would love to go on a long walk in the sun today but today's lunch hour is taken up with a hair wash. I also wanted to do 40 mins of my exercises but there is no time as friend has invited themself over at 4.30, meaning I will have to finish work early and make up the time tomorrow. I also have a never-ending home admin to do list next to my work desk at home. Some of it I need to speak to DH about, for the finances related stuff, but getting him to engage ever is a challenge in itself.

oh and did someone mention Christmas is on the horizon and the extra planning/organising/buying/sorting/arranging that goes with that ....