I had an arguement one night about 10 years ago with a now ex friend. I never knew what was to come. It set off a very dark soul from her.
I got a lot of abuse from her over the years since then. I changed numbers. I blocked her. These steps were never enough.
I used to try and engage with her and reply to her before but that was years ago. Not any more. I realised that there's no reasoning with her.
She still contacts me to this day and it's mainly by email or through my employer when she's desperate enough. I don't respond to her any more. The last time was in 2022 to ask her to stop contacting me. It only just angered her more and fuelled her for lashing out more.
Her communications is abusive. Insulting me. Mocking me. Examining every fibre of my being. She makes it clear she hates me but she wants answers from me in order to fix her feelings.
I live in a country where the police didn't want to help me due to no physical violence from her.
The law is changing now however and it looks like there will be civil law brought in. It was already signed into law last year but it's not in force yet. It is nearly ready to come into force. I was in contact with some politicians.
When this comes into force I hope to use the law to stop this harassment so that I can live in peace.
However I don't have any experience of the law and courts and civil law.
I think this person has a personality disorder from what she does write to me. Theres a lot of intense stuff within her communications. Insults, constonst point making against me even referring to stuff that had nothing to do with us, picking apart old arguements, throwing so much blame my way - blame, blame, blame, blame, blame, blame. I think the tone is - 'fix my feelings or esle' but she's not saying it. Or for me to reconcile with her but she's not saying that.
I know half a decade ago I responded to her but she threw it back in my face. I was mindful that she was feeling hurt and I was polite and I took on a lot of blame but she threw it all back in my face.
Unfortunately I lost some of the older material of abuse from her too but I do have a lot of it.
When the law is updated, I do hope to apply to the local court for an order to stop her.
Our connection is over but she won't leave me alone. We haven't seen each other in about 8 years.
If I stole or boyfriend or killed her cat, you would think I did something to deserve this but it was just one night, frayed nerves, stress and tiredness and stuff came out the wrong way from me. She has behaved since then as if I am a psychopath that needs locking up.
There's a lot of unhinged writings from her too which I have.
Would a judge and the civil path help me? Would a judge be able to see through her ramblings. I am not responding to her.
What is involved. I know I live in a different country to the UK but would it be apply to the court clerk for order papers and filing papers.
How would I do this? I have hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of emails from her and that is just from 2023 onwards. If I had to print that stuff as evidence I would need a week off from work.