Bullying siblings

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Anyone got any experience?

DS’ are 8 and 5. There’s no physical fighting but the eldest is always on the wind up to my littlest. He can be very kind and play together nicely, and when littlest isn’t there eldest gets bored and wants him to play with. But he essentially uses winding him up as entertainment a lot of the time, or I suppose to make himself feel better/self esteem issues. He gets told off and privileges taken from him left right and centre but it doesn’t stop.

I'm following this with interest. My youngest dd has special needs and often does this to her siblings.
I did see on tiktok a video about it being due to them needing a dopamine rush. No idea how accurate this is but it did make a lot of sense.
Didn't help with knowing how to prevent it though.

Interesting @Lemonmelon1 , can I ask what SN your DC has? My littlest is by no means perfect but he just isn’t a wind up in the same way, he rarely says or does things to deliberately wind up my eldest.

My eldest two both have asd and adhd. My youngest is awaiting assessment for both and I expect she has these. She also has gdd and mild brain damage. She has epilepsy and is on meds that make her very irritable at times.

My 20 year old son winds my 14 year old up just for the craic. They've been doing it to each other for years, never physical. But 5 minutes later he's giving him football advice or buying him a McDonald's. It's just they way they are. My nephews are also like that with their younger boy siblings. Tons of fun when we're all together.

It’s definitely not fun here! My littlest will screech at my eldest so I have to intervene. Also it’s just downright mean a lot of the time, he doesn’t say anything about his appearance or anything like that but it’s any opportunity. If my littlest gave it back then I would be able to leave them to it a bit more!