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Would you be annoyed by this? (borrowed phone)

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BrickWasp · 16/09/2024 01:54

Will be returning the phone tomorrow to avoid any more problems but was wondering if you'd have been annoyed and if it sounds like an accusation to you.

My phone broke a month or so ago, I've been waiting to have extra money to get it fixed. My husband went to his parents the other day and came back with an old phone that belonged to his mum and that she doesn't use anymore and said I could borrow it until I got the other fixed, which I was very grateful about.
Now, I deleted everything on the phone.
Two days later my husband gets a call from his phone asking if I had tried to log into her instagram account, to which I said no, she sent a screenshot of a log in attempt, the devices didn't match, I was next to him riding in his car and not on the phone when it happened, and I sent her screenshots of all the accounts I was logged in on the phone as proof. She just said "weird, okay" and moved on.

Later on, my BIL and SIL goes to visit them, he comes back and calls my husband, telling him to make sure that his mum told him about the phone that he gave me, to make sure that he resets everything on the phone, that it's a matter of respect and etiquette, that his mum had nothing to hide but that it's rude. He said that she got notifications of "ALL her accounts being logged into (which wasn't true!) and more" to which my husband replied that he wasn't stupid and made sure everything was deleted.

I've already showed her it wasn't me, it was only one account that was logged into, and it wasn't even on the same device!

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MumChp · 16/09/2024 02:05

I wouldn't pay a lot of attention tbh. I would sort my stuff without her help in future.

BrickWasp · 16/09/2024 02:09

MumChp · 16/09/2024 02:05

I wouldn't pay a lot of attention tbh. I would sort my stuff without her help in future.

You are right, I'm probably being hormonal and emotional. Got annoyed that she had insisted I was accessing her sm accounts with the family. She had a habit of twisting my intentions, what I do and what I say and making me look like a bad person in the past, so I'm probably just hanging on to the past.

Yeah, I'll sort out my things away by myself from now on x

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BobbyBiscuits · 16/09/2024 02:16

You haven't done anything and showed proof. She clearly is worried if someone is trying to scam her, which isn't uncommon. It's just unfortunate it coincided with you borrowing the phone. Surely she must know you'd have no reason to try and open her accounts?
I'd be a bit annoyed as well if I was you as you didn't even ask to borrow the bloody thing in the first place! Haha. It was helpful but yeah, don't borrow anything off her again!

DefyingGravitas · 16/09/2024 02:19

I wonder if the turning on of the phone the first time caused it to log into her accounts before you wiped it. And she’s misunderstood that. If happens to me when I use a really old iPad sometimes.

BrickWasp · 16/09/2024 02:22

DefyingGravitas · 16/09/2024 02:19

I wonder if the turning on of the phone the first time caused it to log into her accounts before you wiped it. And she’s misunderstood that. If happens to me when I use a really old iPad sometimes.

the phone that logged onto hers was a different phone to the one she had given me, this one was actually his brothers' that he had given her but she had never used as she got a new one.

She just keeps insisting it's the same phone but a different sim card!

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BrickWasp · 16/09/2024 02:25

It's not the first time something like this happens.

She lost something when I was at hers and she asked me to be honest and tell her if I had got into her cupboards.

She also joked that my bag was getting bigger as they kept losing stuff!

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BrickWasp · 16/09/2024 02:28

Apologies, I re-read my OP and it's full of mistakes.

it should say "my husband gets a call from his mum*" "my BIL and SIL go to visit them, my BIL comes back" "telling him that his mum told him about the phone that he gave me, to make sure"

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Velvetandgold · 16/09/2024 02:56

BrickWasp · 16/09/2024 02:25

It's not the first time something like this happens.

She lost something when I was at hers and she asked me to be honest and tell her if I had got into her cupboards.

She also joked that my bag was getting bigger as they kept losing stuff!

She's nasty. None of this is a mistake or misunderstanding. None of it is a joke. She's deliberately trying to make out you're a thief and a scammer. Judging by BIL reaction, it's working. Watch your back around her, never borrow anything off her or accept any favours from her and have as little to do with her as possible. She is not your friend.

GreenPeer · 16/09/2024 04:29

I'm afraid in life the only person you can truly trust 100 % is yourself you can never completely be sure of anything or anyone only your own mind so therefore you have to take a risk with absolutely anything else x

RickiRaccoon · 16/09/2024 05:33

I've met a few people like this -- who accuse others because they are easily confused and can't admit to their own mistakes.
I'd make an open 'joke' of how absent-minded and wrong she is: "Is this like that time you accused me of stealing X when you just lost it and found it later? Or like the time you said I did X and were wrong?" Nothing wrong with rolling your eyes and calling out ridiculous people.

SmokeyToo · 16/09/2024 05:40

BrickWasp · 16/09/2024 02:25

It's not the first time something like this happens.

She lost something when I was at hers and she asked me to be honest and tell her if I had got into her cupboards.

She also joked that my bag was getting bigger as they kept losing stuff!

If someone called me a thief, I'd tell them to fuck off - MIL or not!

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