Thread for parents of new freshers

[IncessantNameChanger]

Just dropped the eldest at uni 500 miles away on Saturday. Feeling so sad. Anyone care to join me

Taking mine tomorrow, he's so excited & I am over the moon for him. Can't help but feel devastated myself though.

This is a good idea.I wish he wasn't going so far away - it was not his first choice nor his original subject but he didn't want to retake one A level where he dropped one grade. I get it. But I need to get over myself and my mixed feelings. Letting go is so hard. I also feel practically he is somewhat unprepared but also think he should be on top of it. I just asked him if he wanted a kettle and he looked at me as if I had asked if he had wanted to take a box of Lego.

Commiserations and understanding @twitchwitch and @IncessantNameChanger

My son was so unorganised. In the end I did all of his washing for him. He packed just before we went which made us late. He left lots on the side overlooked. No kettle. No toaster and worse of all He decided he was tierd so we didn't do the planned food shop on arrival..

Me and dh said overnight in travel lodge. Not heard from him. No reply to messages so we will leave him to make contact now.

Lots of the feeling shitty is that he was so unorganised. Didn't say goodbye to his siblings and I don't feel he got himself in the best position to start. Anyone it's done now.

I'm sorting his bedroom out today. Was really hard seeing his 12 year old disabled brother crying as he didn't say goodbye. All part if being disorganised I guess rather than not caring ( I hope).

Doing the drive was physically hard. He has also said he will not make his own way home as we need to pick up his desktop....... argghhhhh!

The agreement was if he went so far away he needs to be able to get there / home under his own steam. So that's gone under the bus.