Reality of marriage and sex

[Alleycatt]

I’m trying to work out if what I’m experiencing is normal or if my marriage is in a mess.

we are both mid 40’s and have been together 21 years, married with 1 teen.

we both work hard and come home knackered. We don’t seem to communicate in the same way that we used to. Sex is very rare. We don’t argue, or act as thought we dislike each other- we’re just kind of living together as housemates!!

does anyone else feel this way??

Are you happy this way? Is he/she happy?

It's easy to start thinking in terms of what's 'right' and 'wrong', but our relationships are our own, unique to us. They have a life of their own. They will change and evolve as we age and our circumstances change. Ebbing and flowing.

Do you feel it's changing for the worse? Are you mourning the way it was in the beginning?

DH and I have been together 25years, now in our 40's also with a teenager. We're yet to figure out how to have sex with a teen in the house, it's next to impossible. We don't want a quick fumble when he's out of the house (he often returns unannounced with a tribe of teens in tow). So it's rare these days but we're happily married and understand this is just a stage in our relationship. It won't be like this forever.