We can't go out as a family

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It's mostly due mental heath issues . Adult dd has bipolar it was diagnosed about 6 months ago . Obviously she had it before hand. They are still trying to work out her medication dosage etc . I know its not dd fault and she probably can't control it. But she constantly picks at things all the time. Things that you can easy just leave. She will actually argue with her 6 year old. Short sharp comments. This will then cause the 6 year old to start crying loudly. And she's still having a go over nothing. It's like she can't stop .

We do seat GS away from her but it does always work we are constantly on egg shells waiting for her to start.

We used to all enjoy going out but we had to stop because it got to much in the end and it was embarrassing. Adult ds has said he wanted us all to go out as a family for his birthday but we can't because of how dd is. But we also can't not invite her.

Will things change once dd medication is properly sorted out ?

This is not a slag off dd thread. Or slag me off thread . I have had hell of alot from dd over the years and it's been extremely hard. I guess I'm saying bipolar effects the whole family as well as dd. I'm hoping one day that can change?

Hi op, no advice but I can only offer you lots of sympathy 💐. I believe my 18yo dd has undiagnosed bipolar which we suspect for a few years now. She is exactly the same but not a mum yet. Always very argumentative, blame others for every problem, sleep pattern all over the place, very rude to us. For other people she either likes them or hates them. We re too walking on egg shells everyday.
May I ask how did your dd get her diagnose?

Sounds tough, OP. No advice but much sympathy. I hope that the medication helps.

I think you should go out without her . You have other children too and they need nice memories . I'm sure everything is dictated by your daughter and your other kids need quality time with you in peace .

Op you and others should go out without her but I feel sorry for her 6yo though. Has she just become very difficult recently but there wasn’t so much of a problem before?

Could you put it to her that you take the child out for the day to give her a break? If she's struggling like you say, she may find things overwhelming and social situations hugely difficult, and an afternoon on her own to get herself together might help a lot. That way, the rest of the family can get together, the child doesn't miss out, and your daughter gets some valuable time to relax.

Cannot speak for others. I know my irrational daughter would be furious at us for days and weeks.

I feel for you OP. My son has schizoaffective disorder, which can present similarly to bipolar. The difference is that I haven't got other children to consider. I think your other kids need some nice memories and quality time with you sometimes. This must be so tough for them. I really think you should go without her on this occasion - assuming you have maybe grandparents to care for her that evening?

This thread is a few months old now. We did manage to go out in the end. It was not as bad as we thought. So it was ok. Adult DD pisses adult DS of a bit . But I think that's a clash of personality. But as a whole it was good.

Well done Op. glad that it kinda worked out. Hope she s now in a better place with the meds.🙂