A person who zapps your energy/mood

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Has anyone ever been in a situation where you're out with a group of people and one of the group just zapps your energy?

Was out today to celebrate something with friends and there were a couple of people in the group I've never met before. One of them just left me feeling cold and as though I had nothing to say when they were around. As the day went on they got louder and I found myself getting quieter. They went home a different way to most of us and as soon as they went home I felt my mood lift. However, I couldn't/can't put my finger on what was wrong - it must have been a me problem!

Don't ever put yourself down OP - "it must have been a me problem".

It's never a "me problem" when there's someone around who you don't feel comfortable with.

I avoid people who "zapp my energy". They're usually too full of themselves. Or toxic.

Sounds as though you may have met Colin Robinson.

https://youtube.com/shorts/HQnarhMF9vc?si=lX1Kgb4qqt0wvd58

I can feel like that sometimes in social situations. Like it's not a place I. An be myself.

Yes.
I can chat easily to most people but every now and again come across someone I just have nothing to say to.

There’s a school mum like this - seems like a really pleasant enough lady but I just hate it when she chats to me as I just have nothing to say. Despite being fine socially 98% of the time.

I have the same with a couple of friends of DC’s dads.

It’s weird

People like this are know as "energy vampires".

Other forms a vampires are available. 😀

Though apologies for the linked article - it was just the first link on googling energy vampires. I now see it says "empaths" find these people harder to cope with, whilst I tend to find people who classify themselves as empathy are the draining people!!

It was odd because I wouldn't say they were a 'vampire' in terms of being needy or negative. There was just something that made me feel off and the louder they got the quieter I found myself getting. Glad to know I'm not alone!

Oh gosh, yes! She was in my small friendship group. She was such a braggart and treated the rest of us as though we were stupid yokels (we're very much not). We were polite though and she took this to mean she could just talk about herself constantly.

She also had a habit of making little sly remarks that could be taken two ways and you'd have to be very careful about what you said, otherwise it'd provide her with useful ammunition for future meetups or a cheeky little put down straight away, if she was in the mood. I used to feel like a mouse being played with by a cat and oh so exhausted by the sheer tension and cognitive work you'd have to do just for a few hours.

Don't miss her one bit 😂