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Daughter hates college and anxious

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Tat48 · 13/09/2024 19:33

My 17 year old daughter has done 1 year at college and doesn't want to go back for the second year. She is enrolled on a new course but is still not happy and wants to change again. I'm fine with this as just want her to be happy, only problem is she doesn't want to do anything at the moment and doesn't know what she would like to do as a career. It is really getting me down and effecting my own anxiety, don't know how to help her.

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poppyzbrite4 · 13/09/2024 19:36

What is she studying?
What is she doing about the anxiety?
Why can't she work?

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Tat48 · 13/09/2024 19:49

She has to stay in college for one more year. Tbh she is not ready to get a full time apprenticeship or job anyway. She just seems a bit lost at the moment. We have talked about her anxiety and I have suggested we speak to someone but it's not something she wants to do at the moment.

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Tat48 · 13/09/2024 19:50

Sorry forgot to say she was doing a level 3 computing course but now started a business course

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poppyzbrite4 · 13/09/2024 19:56

My advice is to make a GP appointment for a checkup as the anxiety could have a physical reason. I would arrange counselling and ask her to see how it goes.

If she spends a lot of time inside, then I suggest lots of fresh air and exercise. Perhaps a sport, club, society or even meetup.com to see what's going on locally.

Make sure her diet is healthy, perhaps get her involved in cooking. Lots of vegetables, fruit, healthy protein.

Choose a course which will be useful irrespective of what she wants to go into.

Maybe some part time volunteering so she can meet new people and get some experience.

wagnbobble · 13/09/2024 20:04

Please chat to the college now as it’s easier to swap courses in the earlier weeks There will be a careers officer who can help with what to choose now ( she needs to take the pressure off herself to know what her career is “forever” but to just find something she enjoys “for now”) , mental health and counsellors ( our college always has a slight wait ) I see so many students like your daughter , I can’t promise it’ll “ all be fine” as anxiety is so pernicious but it will take some pressure off you and her

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Tat48 · 13/09/2024 21:46

I have told her its fine not to know what she wants to do. I will speak to the college on Monday and we are going to look tomorrow for another course. We are talking more recently but she can be difficult to open up. Sure she will be OK. Thank-you

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