Do you find you feel the complete opposite about people "everyone" likes?

[Thrilley]

I can think of four examples. A man who is very charming, but I find sleazy, a woman who always has something nice to say, but I find 2 faced, a man who will do anything for anyone, but is horrible to the many women in his life and a man who is held up as the perfect father (because he spends time with DD) but treats the child's mother appallingly.

Everyone appears to think they're wonderful, except me.

Yes, all the time, It's probably because I'm very cynical, but I've pretty much never been wrong. Sometimes it feels so obvious that I don't know why the people aren't seeing it too.

I sometimes find the opposite too, that I like unpopular people, finding them honest or interesting, which is what others often don't like.

Yes all the time. I’m thinking of a particular woman at work who everyone thinks a lot of, I just think she’s passive aggressive and a bit of a martyr. Always banging on about her perfect family too.

It has often been the case that the person everyone likes is rude/dismissive of me when no one is around to see it - I am a boring, unpopular person. There's nothing to be gained by saying anything to their 'followers' so I just nod along when their praises are being sung.

Yep. Same here. I think a lot of people are very superficial, follow the crowd, etc. Just because someone else thinks X is fun and popular, they just glibly think the same without actually thinking about the person, about what they say, what they do, etc. A kind of herd mentality. If y thinks x is a good person, she must be!

I expect they also don't know how you feel about these people unless you've told them.

I find that if someone is bad enough to have made you dislike them so, that others will also be of the same opinion. It's happened time and again that when that sort of person comes up in conversation that it comes out that they are secretly disliked by a few others.

Most recent example was the boasting, self unaware mother about her child's hobby. She latched onto anybody while we were doing the adult version of this hobby and would drone on at them. People seemed interested but it came out, during conversation, that they were as irritated as me and avoided her.

Similar example with a two faced gossip woman years ago. Though she was confronted by someone in the end.

Yes. Narcissists for example can be extremely popular as they want people to like them and to impress but after being married to one for many years I find them easier to spot.

Yep but my BS threshold is very low and I seem to have a spidey sense for spotting it 😂

Quite often actually. It sounds silly but it's like I can sense peoples' energies/auras 😂 but that a lot of people can't.

Oh yes! There were two women at my old work place who were sickly sweet to everyone, pretended to be caring and kind. Everyone thought they were wonderful until they realised what they were really like- passive aggressive twats who bitched about them behind their backs. I dont trust anyone who is saccharine sweet all the time- it indicates to me they are masking their true feelings.

Also- constant victims. These people seem to elicit a lot of sympathy from others for the awful way they appear to have been treated by everyone but if you have fallen out with literally every single person in your life without exception, both past and present then the problem is with you, not everyone else in the world.