13 year old screen time

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We take screens off DD at night time & this is now causing a problem as her friends are allowed on their phones past 10pm. I won’t allow phones in bedrooms over night, but I’m trying to strike a balance between sticking to my guns & allowing her a bit of freedom. I don’t mind her listening to ASMR stuff or Spotify but she uses TikTok for that stuff & I want to limit her use of socisl media as much as I can. I’m curious what others do about tech in rooms or screen time around this age?

Curious as well what you do with your phones cos I often get ‘but you have your phone at night’ raised during these discussions. She knows I’m doing boring Mom things like school dinners, sorting appointments etc but I am also on Instagram while listening to Audible on my phone. But I would definately put my phone elsewhere at night if that made it easier for her to accept. Just curious if others only take their kids phones or put their own away as well.

No, I don't put my own phone away in the evenings though definitely recognise I should try to use it less. There are lots of things adults do that aren't suitable or good for kids, I don't see that as being hypocritical and I wouldn't engage in an argument on those lines. Also my friends don't message me at 1am!

I have mine in the bedroom but she knows I go to bed at 10/10:30 and don't use it. I need time away from screens.. My husband has to have his as is diabetic and it's linked to his sensor.

My phone is left downstairs at night - this is mainly to save me from myself (because otherwise I'd be tempted to have a look at it when I wake up in the night), but it also sets a good example to my teens! My DS age 14 has to leave his downstairs and I do believe him that a lot of his friends don't have this rule, but that's why they're all on Snapchat at 1am whereas DS gets a good sleep every night! My older teens (17 and nearly 19) are allowed theirs in their rooms overnight. They're old enough to regulate themselves.

My rules are similar - no screens at bedtime and they are downstairs. I make visiting kids do the same (generally these are children I've known for many years). No tv in their rooms. I don't care what others do, this is my house!

DD1 is year 10. I might relax rules in sixth form, I don't know.

DS is year 7 and I'm quite surprised at the amount of primary children who were texting at all hours.

They have plenty of friends.

I also leave my phone downstairs at night to avoid temptation!

We have parental controls on our childrens phone and it locks the phone at 7.30pm - only emergency calls available.
So although she charges it in her room overnight she doesn't access anything. Children are 13,12 and 10. Sometimes we get grumbles about it and we do sometimes extend it at the weekend if they are facetiming friends but not for tik tok ect.
All my children have some friends who have constant access and i find it really sad that they message in the middle of the night when they should be sleeping.

Each to their own but personally I don't limit my 13yr olds screen time. 10yr old yes, teenagers no, their old enough. I'll pop my head in about 11pm to make sure he's gone to bed.

I don't tend to use my phone in the evening. I occasionally watch something on my iPad or more often read on my ebook. DH is the same. Neither of us take phone to the bedroom. I take my iPad but that's because I use it as my alarm.