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Thrilley · 12/09/2024 20:26

I was married for a really long time and after 3 years single am starting to think I might like some very light casual dating.

My problem is that whilst I know quite a few eligible men, they're all friends and I'm sure they don't see me as anything else, nor me them tbh.

I meet new people regularly through hobbies and I have quite a few people I've known in passing for years, but I have no idea how they become a "date" rather than a friend or an aquaintance.

There's one man, I knew, not well, when I was married and he at that time was very recently seperated. We chatted superficially occasionally, but he never became a proper friend and then disappeared from the hobby groups, but now he's back. Seems to be doing really well co parenting his now teen DDs. An attractive, friendly, interesting man.

I recently had an "anniversary" in the hobby and a general invitation went out for people to celebrate it with me. He came, when he hasn't been to any of our social events for ages (years). This weekend my club is organising an event. I sent details to him this week, plugging the event, and he signed up straightaway.

It's not much, but it is something...or not?

What next?

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Thrilley · 12/09/2024 21:18

OK, it's nothing 😆

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Paisleydad · 12/09/2024 21:59

I wish I knew.

Married for ages. Have now been single for ages - work got in the way TBH.

Now retired (and obviously quite a catch, virile etc, etc, 🤣) pastimes are male dominated.

Sorry Thrilley. Can't help.

Aquamarine1029 · 12/09/2024 22:05

Can you send him a message, Facebook, email, whatever, asking how he is and that it's nice to see him join in the group again? Perhaps get the ball rolling that way.

Thrilley · 12/09/2024 22:10

Aquamarine1029 · 12/09/2024 22:05

Can you send him a message, Facebook, email, whatever, asking how he is and that it's nice to see him join in the group again? Perhaps get the ball rolling that way.

Yes, I sent something like that thanking him for coming to the "anniversary".

I haven't heard anything (or seen him) since, except that he did respond very quickly when I messaged him about this weekend's event, and asked if I was going. He may well have assumed I sent that to lots of people.

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